I agree with Scott. She’s cheating on you. Even if she hasn’t done the deed yet, she really not showing you a lot of respect for you. When you overheard him make those sexual remarks to her. A good spouse would put a stop to it and discontinue the friendship if her “friend” was overstepping the boundaries of friendship. This all happened in front of her co-workers so they all know. Doesn’t feel to good.

I’m really sorry for you. It must hurt so much. A person that really cared about you, would let you drive yourself so crazy……over “nothing”. They change their behavior. Prove their innocence. Whatever. I’m not saying being a jealous husband is something that needs to be catered to but…..people that care, show it.

A very similar thing happened to me and I’ve never been the same.

She’s cheating, don’t kid yourself. Get proof and then decide what you need to do. It’s not worth it to let her ruin your life without doing something about it.

I am driving myself crazy, I admit that. I just don’t know how to proceed…back off and wait until she comes to me and says, I’m sorry, I cheated on you? Either way, I’m going to be suspicious and this is eating me up inside.

There are two things you can do. Trust her until you have absolute proof that she is cheating. Or, continue to worry over the situation.

Look at it this way. As is, your lack of trust is destroying your marriage. It isn’t cheating by her that is doing the damage but your lack of trust and the friction that is causing between the two of you.

How are you going to feel if you let your emotions get the best of you, your marriage goes down the tubes and then you find out she wasn’t cheating?

You are going nuts, she is going nuts and worse yet, the children are going nuts. And it is all because you THINK she might be cheating.

Get control of your emotions and back off until you have proof.

Since the beginning of our relationship, we have both had trust issues, Major trust issues. She had called her ex-boyfriend obsessivly almost the entire time we were together (ironically he is the biological father to my first boy) but until recently had almost ceased all communication together. I’m no longer worried about him – he is a loser. Here’s my concern. My wife works part time and talks to this guy at work often, too often actually. She recently sent him a picture message from her cell phone and tried to delete it then covered it up when I found out about it…this is not the first time something like this has happened. A few weeks ago, her phone accidentaly dialed my phone when she was out with him and her co workers and I clearly heard him say “you’re so sexy” and something about taking her back to his house…and she tried to side step the conversation and make it like it wasn’t a big deal.

Now I’m going nuts – acting like a private investigator! I don’t trust anything she says and I’m going out of my mind! I confronted her, she said it’s nothing. But, our sex life has been slim to say the least and she’s had excuse after excuse for finding reasons to be really pissed off at me…like to the point that we have had horrible drawn out fights that last days!!!! My kids are sufferning, my mental state is out of whack and I’m lost. Any suggestions?