Submitted by Delaine Moore
A divorced girlfriend of mine was going out on a date – a third date, which rarely happened with her. And as we talked over the phone beforehand, she was almost panicked.
She asked: “What do I talk to him about without getting into all this heavy stuff? I don’t want him to think ‘Holy shit – Desperate Single Mom.’ I want to be authentic with him, and yet I don’t know how to do that without revealing the true circumstances of my life.”
I understood her concern. After all, we all hear about the stereotypical ‘divorcee with luggage.’ It’s carries connotations of shame, as if she has wrecked her life and doesn’t deserve any better; certainly, she’s no ‘prize catch’ for a man.
“You are NOT your story.”
Then I told her again: “You are NOT your story.”
I said, “Yes, you’re going through a tough time right now. But tough times happen to everyone. And you can be honest about that point without getting into the nitty-gritty.”
You are NOT your story hun. You have to believe in yourself.
You are NOT your story.