Submitted by Delaine
When I was a child, I remember hearing whispers about so-and-so’s parents getting divorced. All I could think was ‘Oh my God, my friend’s life is over’. For to be a child of divorce was marked with fear and shame.
Fast forward to the present and how my young children perceive divorce: every second or third friend of theirs comes from a broken family. And my kids casually refer to “Dillon spending the weekend with his dad” or “Oh, it’s Emily’s mom’s turn this week,” as if it’s a normal part of life.
I’m not saying divorce isn’t a big deal to the kids going through it. But isn’t it wonderful that their social groups don’t treat them, or think of them, as lepers if they’re from broken families?
I like how my kids are exposed to broken or unconventional families on children’s TV shows, too. My children regularly watch Drake and Josh, which depicts a blended family, and I-Carly, which depicts absent parents, an involved grandpa and a single mom. I regularly watch these shows with my kids – I like being there to field my kids’ questions and discuss issues these programs address. I like that my kids’ have healthy young role models that don’t come from the perfect nuclear family. I like that this generation of kids are learning to address the challenges of divorce/life/relationships, instead of bowing down in shame for something they can’t control.
Exposure goes a long way, don’t you think? We were so fearful and ignorant back in the eighties…
Delaine – www.iamdivorcednotdead.com