Submitted by Delaine
I’ve put off and put off and put off writing this blog because I was worried about coming across as a whiner. But as my Good Man has reminded me once again, I’m not SuperWoman. And so I confess: I sometimes find it really hard being a divorced mom with no family support here in town.
I know my feelings are exacerbated by other life circumstances right now: financially I’m in a tough spot. And my ex-husband’s controlling and bully’ish ways have hit an all-time low…
But recently I spent two weeks in Ottawa with my extended family. And watching my kids play with their many cousins and being around my warm and loving family really made me wish I didn’t live so far away. My children were so happy. And for the first time in ages, I felt supported; like I could breathe.
I’ve worked my butt off since getting divorced to build a new career (I’ve been a stay-at-home mom for eight years). Like obsessively so – to the point where girlfriends have worried about my mental health. My goal was, and still is, to create a passive income that is large enough to keep me at home during the day with my three kids. I’ve looked reality straight in the face, and I know I have to ‘do it all,’ in all areas of my life – period.
But in many ways, I’m exhausted. I’ve driven myself to the bone. Carreer plans are moving slower than I thought, in large part because of the economy. Taking care of my three young kids 24/7 is a full-time job unto itself. And dealing with a bully-ish ex-husband, who hasn’t got a clue, leaves me in shock; physically and emotionally.
I know “this too, shall pass.” In the end it’ll all make me stronger, right?
But in my moments of self-pity – when my SuperWoman Cape is out of reach – a part of me just thinks it’s so unnatural for ONE person to be able to raise three healthy kids AND be/do everything else. And then – more than ever – I really wish I had a family support system here in town.
Delaine (aka SuperWoman)