Submitted by Delaine
I started online dating about six months into my separation. And when my ex-husband found out, it was an ‘awkward’ moment.
He was in my office and asked me which site I was on (he started listing them all off, to my total surprise). He then told me to pull up my profile, (which I did, cause I was so taken aback by the whole situation) and he stood there laughing and evaluating my written profile and photos.
Yeah – awkward.
Fast forward two years. During this time, I’ve registered and unregistered from various e-dating sites. I’ve been in ‘exploration’ mode, reacclimatizing to the dating trenches and trying to find my Self and footing as a single mom. My ex, on the other hand, found a new woman to love and moved in with her. Good for him, I’ve thought to myself, inwardly wishing him well. I also assumed MY social life was/is of no interest to him.
But it turns out that not only he has fully tracked every site I’ve been on, he’s intent on pushing it in my face as if it’s something I should be ashamed of. As recently as this past weekend, he addressed me in a text message, not as Delaine, but by my dating site username.
WTF? We’re now two years into our divorce, and he stills feels a need to track me?
Am I not getting something here? Is he trying to insinuate that I’m a bad mom or a whore or something because I’m on a dating site? Or is this not totally whacked? I mean, I know curiosity might drive an ex to check out their former spouse’s profile. But it’s like he wants to make certain I know ‘he knows.’