Comments on: Does Your Ex-Husband Have A Problem With You Online Dating?

By: Delainem

Delainem — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 04:58:49 +0000

I honestly don’t know if I should laugh at his behavior or have the heebie jeebies. Somtimes it’s a little of both…

By: Barry

Barry — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 18:20:41 +0000

Delaine Just throw your head back and give a loud laugh. Go Ahead. Do it! He may have ‘found’ a new woman, but he is still not over you. I hate to say it, but us guys can be such 5 year olds. If he was truly happy, he would have no interest in your love life.

Divorced couples can be such a joy, don’t you think? Have fun. You can’t change him.

By: Shamaal

Shamaal — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 15:20:03 +0000

This post scares me because I am newly divorced. Everyone says my ex will settle down soon and stop stalking me, but he is getting worse even though he has a girlfriend. Situations like yours make me realize that it may never be over.

I DO know that this behavior is unacceptable: you shouldn’t respond to it at all. I do not allow my ex to come near me, and he certainly would not be in my office or in my home. The first thing you should do is get him away from you. Don’t share any information with him! You can get a restraining order for harassment if you need it. Something like this is not “childish” or “difficult”–it is abuse.

By: CJ

CJ — Sun, 26 Jul 2009 21:23:01 +0000

I find it hard to “call a spade a spade” because deep down I always want to think the best about a person. I have a desire (need?) to figure out the whys so that I can “understand” them and perhaps “help” them, even if its just changing the way I deal with certain people. I am a fixer and it drives me crazy to not be able to fix (help) someone. I keep thinking if I dig deep enough I’ll find some way to justify their behavior so that it will seem more acceptable…

By: Delaine

Delaine — Sun, 26 Jul 2009 00:02:01 +0000

I have shared all of your thoughts at one point or another as I’ve pondered this…
But I just find such blatant immaturity shocking. But I guess it is so. Don’t know why I still find it hard to call a spade a spade.

By: Anlina Sheng

Anlina Sheng — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 17:25:45 +0000

This is crazy, obsessive, stalkerish behaviour, and at its core, it’s controlling. He’s trying to manipulate your emotions and behaviour by putting you off balance.
He obviously hasn’t let go of you. Sounds like he needs some professional help.

By: Hali

Hali — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 17:21:29 +0000

He has not let go in ANY way…It shows up every time he makes a comment. Any time you talk to him from now on just sign off using a different username! I feel bad for his girlfriend,because it is clear much of his time is spent on “you”. I wonder how she really feels witnessing his treatment of you and the kids. I know when I started dating it was important to me on how a man spoke and acted towards his ex and what he was doing to help his kids through such difficult times. That is a man’s true colors-All of seen of your ex is black…I hope he comes around for everybody especially the kids!

By: Paula

Paula — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 12:19:33 +0000

So long as your not a podium girl LOL!

By: MommaSunshine

MommaSunshine — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 10:49:32 +0000

Wow. That’s insane. That kind of behaviour is completely childish. If it were me, I’m make a whole other online profile, one that he didn’t know about. You have nothing to be ashamed of. If anyone should be embarassed, it definitely should be him.

By: Cathy

Cathy — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 14:22:41 +0000

He is a child Delaine. Someone who hasn’t managed to let go of you and his need to control you.
I imagine that it irks the hell out of him that you are dating, building a career and getting on with your life.
He may be like my ex who believes that I injured him in some way and due to that I am to suffer. Not enjoy and move on with my life but suffer.
The more they see us moving on the worse it feels to them and the angrier they become.
I hope that you don’t take his attempt to shame you to heart. When he plays his childish games laugh it off and keep moving forward.
He is the one who should feel shame over his actions, not you.