Comments on: Dating Younger Men – Would You? Could You? Dare Ya!

By: Amelia

Amelia — Fri, 20 Aug 2010 00:27:07 +0000

George, you’ve made an excellent point in bringing this up cause I don’t think it’s OK to expose our children to our simple ‘adventures’, whether the man is 20 or 50. We are allowed to ‘play’ but protecting our kids and their over all well-being comes FIRST.

If the mother of your children has fallen in love with this younger man, then that’s one thing – but if it’s short term, you’re right, I think it’s very confusing for your children to understand. Have you tried to address this with your ex-wife? If not, I know I’d be gently opening conversations around it with my children so at the very least, they have a chance to ask questions or express feelings around it. That might help do damage control, which, I know is frustrating to have to do. But they’re worth it…even if the ex is totally not thinking straight and you want to shake him/her!

By: George

George — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 23:58:13 +0000

I am a divorced father of two children. I have custody of my children. A son 8 and a daughter 12. My ex of many years is 46. She is currently dating/sleeping with a 21 year old. My children seem to be less than enthusiastic about him. I have had them in counseling for over a year now for anxiety issues related to this relationship. I have read this article and many articles trying to understand my ex’s desire to be with someone sooooooo young. While I understand the physical attraction and chemistry thing, I am bothered that no one seems to be considering the effect these relationships have on minor children. I am bothered that women feel it is okay to hookup with men/boys 20+ years their junior without considering the impact it makes on young children(their daughters). I am bothered that women and men are not concerned with the example they provide these young children.

By: Linda

Linda — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 09:28:56 +0000

I am currently in a serious relationship with a younger man (10 years younger). I can honestly say I was hesitant at first, I was exactly like what was described in this story.

But the more I got to know him and the more time we spent together… I found out that we had more in common than anyone I have ever been with. We have been together for almost a year and a half and have so much fun together. We dance, go for long walks, he teaches me about basketball and I teach him about art. What ever differences we do have we share our knowledge with one another and really are experiencing what it is to grow with someone.

We always get comments where ever we go about how much in love we look like and if we are on our honey moon. We never stop holding hands, and he is always very proud to have me by his side.

He did loose a friend who didn’t support our relationship, but he was quick to defend my honor (more than anyone ever did my age). He stated that if his friends couldn’t support him and be happy for him than they are not real friends.

I am so much in love and to think how close I came to just turning away and not giving him a chance… it frightens me. I would have missed out on the greatest love I have ever experienced. We hope to one day marry.

By: Simone

Simone — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 15:27:41 +0000

I had a completely wild year following my divorce 2 years ago. I’d been married for 15 years, and hadn’t realised just how low my self-esteem had got to…..

My wild year totally cured all that! Virtually all the men I met during that year were younger than myself, one being just 25 (I was 45!), but he was absolutely lovely and treated me like a princess. We both went into the relationship as purely a physical one, and I met with him about 12 times over the course of a year. Did wonders for bootsing my morale! Most of the men I met with I’d never have dared even approach in a bar! I met them all via the internet.

I met a lot of older chaps who acted very immaturely, were quite jealous and wanted me all to themselves. The younger men were happy for a non-serious relationship. I was happy to have the physical…. “perks” and not having a load of dirty washing to pick up off the floor!!! Haa haa!

All good things have to come to an end I guess….. I’m now in a long-term relationship with someone eight years my junior, but to me it’s all about compatibility rather than someone being the “right age”.

By: Whispering winds

Whispering winds — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 04:40:48 +0000

I did twice. One was a 7 yr relationship. He was not a lot younger but enough to appreciate me and be kind and nice. We both liked to dance. My ex did dance, just not with me lol!

One guy liked about his age told and he was ten years younger than men.

By: Michael N

Michael N — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 04:40:03 +0000

I’m attracted to older woman myself don’t think that is wrong or anything hormonial, i’ve had married women going through divorce “almost” spend the night” gotten numbers of 30 somethings there isn’t anyhting out of the ordinary or wrong with that except for the married part if your single your single. The older woman likes that young feeling and the man loves that she is stable and doesn’t play games. An adult able to express there feeling clearly is very attractive not too mention maybe a few zeros in the bank. LolYour alright just live your life.

By: DelaineM

DelaineM — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 04:39:04 +0000

LOL My PLEASURE Dana! I just love it when gfs can make other gfs smile – and we ALL need ‘that’ kind of glowing, smile too. Fortunately, as I ventured into the dating realm again after divorce, my best friend was going through the same insanity…and let’s just say, we egged each other on and belly laughed like there was no tomorrow.

By: DanaLK

DanaLK — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 02:01:26 +0000

Great timing on this article. I’ve just been giving myself a serious pep talk about lightening up a little. I’ve been divorced 2 years, and so far have been very serious–focused on work and going back to school. And I’ve been all full of rules. Earlier this summer I was flirting with the idea of a younger guy, and was chicken. But after some thought, and regret, I’d definitely give it a try if an opportunity like that arises again. Life is short. I’ve had my life on hold long enough. Anything could happen next week, and I need to get a little livin’ in.

Thanks for the lively reinforcement.

By: BigLittleWolf

BigLittleWolf — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 19:54:01 +0000

Go Danah! You definitely get my vote on that one. It works for men and women both I think – when newly divorced, you need to experiment, get to know yourself in a different role and with other partners, and why not with a bit of youthful energy and enthusiasm?

Remember how Stella got her groove back…

By: Danah

Danah — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 03:23:48 +0000

And bottom line is, even if these younger guys don’t turn into Mr Forever, they’re a great way to get your groove back! Sometimes a little ego rub and some GREAT fun is just what the doctor ordered for us divorcing!