New Years Resolution: No More Husband Bashing

Submitted by: Cathy

Do you find yourself dialing a friend to vent at every twist and turn of your dreadful, never ending divorce? Ok gals, I can remember going through my divorce and having diarrhea of the mouth about every foul thing my ex did – and you know what? It didn’t make me feel any better, as a matter of fact I always felt worse. Can you relate?

I know well how the injustice, the disappointment, the coldness, the lies can drive you crazy but sinking to his level by gossiping with your friends will just keep you in a downward spiral and leave you feeling empty.

So what’s a girl to do? Below three great techniques that will help you rise above your unconscious need to bash and lash out at your soon to be ex.

Change Your Story

When your friends call and want the latest update simply change your story. Esther and Jerry Hicks, authors of The Law of Attraction, contend we each have the power to change our circumstances by changing our story. Instead of going into your usual tirade, tell your friends you are beginning to see the light, you are feeling pretty good about the situation and you are expecting everything to turn out in your favor. Even if this is not true now your continued verbal confirmation will manifest good will for you.

JOURNAL

Train yourself to grab your journal instead of your phone to release depression and frustration. In the time it takes to have a conversation you can dump your thoughts in stream of consciousness writing. This is fast and furious penning- no censoring or judgment. After you are done, read it and go a step deeper. Ask yourself why you are so irritated and see what comes up. Awareness is the first step to healing and will surely help you soar from the depths of despair.

DYNAMIC BREATHING

Taking a yoga class would be ideal but may not be practical. Dynamic breathing is a great substitute that you can do anywhere: car, office, home. Start by breathing in deeply through your nose – picturing white light entering your body. Exhale through your nose, picturing all negativity flowing out of your body. Dynamic breathing is both a cleansing and centering exercise. You will feel immediate peace – able to see things with a more positive perspective.

Bonus Tip – This is my promise -if you implement these techniques you’ll feel empowered instead of empty. Now wouldn’t you agree that’s a much better place to be?

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