nice… way to tell someone they aren’t worth it, unless he can protect his financial “status”. I’m sure he did his best to make sure he didn’t emotionally rob her blind… bleh.

First and foremost. Women will always be worth it. And I’m sure she felt “robbed blind” from his “ability” to love her.

He equated marriage to money and sex… no wonder all of these guys are divorced or getting divorced. They all valued the wrong things. And the women are hurting them in the only way they know know how. In the things they valued. Which how I see it, is if she invested so much time, effort and compassion for this heartless jerk in the goals that “only he valued”, then these men can give up part of this “value” that they worked for.

All he had to do was work for his family, and he wouldn’t be feeling this way.

Oh well…concider yourself lucky!

I guess this date was a crash course in conversation-etiquette-post-divorce. I’m sure no man would want to hear ME go on venomously about my ex or past conversations with my girlfriends, so the same applies to men.

I felt like I was under attack and had I had less manners, I WOULD have make an escape by excusing myself to the bathroom and never coming back.

Barb, you asked how long he’d been divorced. He said it had been FIVE years! Scary eh? You’da thought three months for the absoulte disgust in his voice/face. Don’t get me wrong – I too went through an ‘angry phase’ so I understand it’s role in healing, but I’ve moved on and finally feel ready for a relationship (though I’m being very cautious). I think the best gift we can give our divorced friends if they’re still like that five years in is a giant kick in the butt to get UNSTUCK!

Dress very very sexy, low cut, revealing. Have him take you to a really expensive restaurant, bottles of wine. dessert. Play the interested , ” I want you, and will have you later flirt”. When he touches any part of you or tries to kiss you, just say that is for my Mr. Later, and wink. After a few times he will think he just has another woman willing to have sex with him.

Your guy friend will then call your cell phone and you answer “I can’t wait”. Get up from your chair, casually mention, “I’m sorry, dinner was great, but my Mr. Later is here to pick me up”!

That should also have him on his ass going, ‘What the hell happened?

His wife had left him for another man, she had ruined his credit before leaving, managed to get the marital home in the divorce and was living in the home with her new man.

This guy had no ill will toward her. He would talk about how deeply she had hurt him and then talk about wishing them both the best. I’m sorry but, no anger can be as dangerous as too much anger.

I don’t know how long ago this you guy dated has been separated for, but it sounds like it’s been awhile. That’s sad. Cause in being careful, he misses out on potentially finding another shot at love and happiness.

But that’s his to figure out. Thank goodness he showed his true colors to you right away. NEXT!

Of course in his eyes and his friends they should be able to leave, take the money and suffer no financial consequence.

I like reading that guys like this and all his friends are off marriage. Who the heck wants to end up with someone with that attitude? And could that attitude be the reason he is no longer married?