Submitted by: Cathy
Should I wait to date until my divorce is final?
That is a question I hear often. As far as I’m concerned adults can deal with their dating life in anyway they see fit. BUT I do feel strongly that much thought should be put into whether or not dating is something you want to add to the stress and emotion of divorce.
We are all human and what better comfort during a stressful time than the attention and affection of a member of the opposite sex? I had a friend tell me that the best way to get over my ex would be to get under someone else. An attractive thought but my divorce was so adversarial I shudder to think what my ex would have done once a third party became involved.
And that is what you have to think about if you date before the ink is dry on those divorce court orders. How is your soon to be ex going to respond and do you want to introduce an innocent person into what is and could become a more stressful situation.
There is always the possibility of ending up in Gabrielle Union’s position. Gabrielle is currently dating Miami Heat‘s Dwayne Wade has been thrown into the middle of the NBA stars divorce to Siohvaughn Wade. TMZ is reporting that Siohvaughn Wade is suing Gabrielle for $50,000 in damages caused by emotional distress on behalf of the couples’ two sons, Zaire, 8, and Zion, 2.
According to the Chicago Sun Times, Siohvaughn is a claiming that Gabrielle “engaged in sexual foreplay with Dwyane Wade” in front of the two boys while they were on an unsupervised visit with their father. Wade has spoken out about allegations, saying,
“I am shocked that Siohvaughn has brought this baseless and meritless lawsuit in the name of our children against Gabrielle Union. I am deeply saddened and disappointed that Siohvaughn has used our sons once again as pawns and is now lashing out at Gabrielle, who is an innocent party. It is clear that this is a desperate attempt to retaliate against me for seeking sole custody of our children and requesting that the court have her undergo a psychiatric examination.”
There is a slew of additional allegations in the suit, including neglect, the suit claims Wade introduced Union to the boys and said, “that is why your mom and I are going to divorce.”
Wade, now 28, had been with Siohvaughn since the age of 15.
OK, so not many of us aren’t going to be sued for $50,000. Few of us are going to date an NBA star but there are a lot of crazy, soon to be exes out there so why take chances?
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