I am going through a divorce after suffering abuse for two and a half years: emotional, verbal, and physical. I turned to my parents to let me live with them in my old bedroom until my divorce gets sorted and they agreed. I am independent, have no children, and I financially help my parents now.
The problem, however, is that I have a controlling sister who runs the house of my parents. She constantly picks on me and says I am causing depression in the whole house because of the worries I bring with my divorce. Now my parents have stopped talking to me and constantly tell me I have to leave as soon as I am divorced. That won’t be for another couple of months.
Can you please tell me something about parents’ favoritism, unfair treatment, abandonment, and rejecting their divorced kid because she’s a “burden”?
Here is what I can tell you about parents favoritism, unfair treatment, abandonment, and rejecting a divorced kid because she’s a burden: sometimes our reality is not what we might have planned or freely chosen, but it is our reality. To try to explain your sister or your parents without knowing your situation in detail is impossible. It does seem to me that the situation is untenable for you and that you need to claim responsibility for your life and move on. Your parents are your parents. Your sister is your sister. I doubt that you can change them BUT you can choose the best way to handle the situation. Living there is not serving you. It is upsetting and damaging. You might want to consider how you want to live your life and start taking steps towards that life.
Do not take your parents asking you to move as a rejection…it is just who they are.
Shelley Stile is an ACC certified Divorce Recovery Life Coach and author who guides her clients to let go the pain of their divorce and move on to create new and vibrant lives after divorce. Shelley has been through her own divorce so she knows first-hand about the journey of divorce recovery. Receive her free, powerful e-book, The 10 Secrets to Coping with Divorce’, and her monthly ‘Take Back Your Life After Divorce’ Newsletter by going to: http://www.freedivorcesupport.com.