Eight Signs He Is Cheating

Adultery is a tricky situation, it is hard to be sure if a husband is cheating but it pays to protect yourself. We live in the age of technology, cell phones; the internet…temptation is everywhere, lovers are easily accessible and we can all be tempted…husbands and wives. If you suspect he is being unfaithful be vigilant, pay attention to your intuition but at the same time be careful not to let anxiety lead the way. You don’t want to push him away by making unfounded accusations.

Eight Signs Your Husband is Cheating

Change is Sexual Habits:

If he’s getting it from another source, he probably wants less sex at home. A decrease in sex signals serious issues in the relationship.

Strange Cell Phone Habits:

All of a sudden he is no longer open and honest about who is is texting with and talking to on his cell phone. If you notice him being more protective of his phone, leaving the room to keep from being heard on the phone or hiding his phone, this could be a sign of trouble.

He Has a New “Friend”:

Michele’s husband starting talking about a woman from work…non-stop admiration. He just thought she was great. Before long he was having lunch with his new work “friend” and soon after he had filed for divorce and was leaving for his “soul mate” who, at one time had only been a “friend.” Be careful if he comes up with a new friend because there is a danger that this friend is more than a “friend.”


Even though relationships ebb and flow naturally, if you’re sensing that he’s withdrawing from you, then there may be someone else. Emotional distance should be investigated regardless of whether it’s caused by cheating. There’s a problem if he’s not laughing or seems less passionate as usual. It’s hard to spread love/passion between two people, so the person who used to have it will feel it slipping away if it’s being given to someone else.

He is Unavailable:

Suddenly he has to travel for work; maybe he has taken up a new sport and spends every Saturday after engaged in playing.  I knew a woman whose husband joined a book club that met every Thursday night. Very strange for a man who wasn’t often seen reading.  If he becomes unavailable to the point you are wondering what is up, then something is probably up.

Liar, Liar Pants on Fire:

Does he have a slippery relationship with the truth? If he consistently breaches your trust, it’s establishing a pattern of behavior that is indicative to cheating. Do yourself a favor: If he keeps lying, whether these lies are big or small, get out while you can and don’t let him talk his way back in.

Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater:

If he’s cheated  before, he’s definitely capable of doing it again. It has nothing to do with you, which is why you can’t say that he cheated on his previous lover because she didn’t keep him happy. Cheating is a self-serving act in which the cheater doesn’t take his significant other into consideration. If he has admitted to cheating on an ex then don’t be surprised when he cheats on you.

You Feel it in Your Gut:

Don’t ignore your sixth sense. Women are gifted at sensing when something doesn’t feel right. Whether there are red flags in your relationship that are clueing you in or not, if something feels off, don’t ignore the feeling. Usually that feeling is right, and something indefinable may have led to you figuring it all out.

Do you have any signs to add to the list? Have I missed anything you have personal experience with? What sorts of behaviors do you think are characteristic of someone who could be a cheater?


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    Just read signs he’s cheating, & as for me it all fits him in one way or another & then some! I’ve been married for 15 yrs. & have 4 children together, I began to notice his online behavior increasing daily, messages deleted, multiple email accts, much time in chat rooms with a female “friend” or two, & recently little intimacy, & this overall impression of not even being present emotionally at all to me or the kids. The biggest thing is all these lies I catch him in that he always firmly denies throwing fits of anger & accusing me of being the cause of his distance since I question him. The part that completely unnerves me is his cocky, insulting, uncaring, angry & controlling, & attempts at bullying he has that disrupts our household when he isn’t working. It feels toxic & as if the kids & I are in his prison of deception waiting to be released:(

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    ann chialastri says

    I would like to sign up for this. I feel hurt everyday. I feel distant from him and when I ask questions I get bullied so ill shut bc up. I feel very lonely inside and dontc want to lose my best friend and husband. Hhhhhh ow long do you keep trying. When is it enough to ju as t let go and realize that oncea cheater always a cheater. When its good its good but v when its bad its almost mentally abusive.

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    Lori says

    Can’t find any proof yet, but something is definitely off. You aren’t with someone for 20-some years without knowing. If he is cheating, I wish he’d do me a favor and leave already.

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