Submitted by: Lee Block
He’s all yours and good luck with that! Maybe he will treat you better. Perhaps he will love you more. Oh, you have your own children? Maybe he will be a better step-parent than he is a father. Should I tell you some things or let you find out about them for yourself? I think I’ll let you be surprised.
Trouble in paradise? So sorry, guess you should have looked through the baggage he hid in the closet. Problems dealing with the fact that he was married to me? It’s a fact of life, and I don’t like it anymore than you do, so get over it. You thought you could change him, but don’t you know that a leopard can’t change his spots and you can’t teach an old dog new tricks. And, no, I didn’t train him for you. That’s your job now.
Tired of hearing his complaints about money, work, kids and you? You wanted him, deal with it. I could have told you so many things, but you were married before I even knew you existed. And, then you rebuffed all offers of getting to know each other for the sake of my children.
You think I am jealous of you? I’ve been where you are, and know there is nothing to be jealous of. In fact, I feel sorry for you. But, now his problems are your problems and his actions are taken out on you. He wiped his feet on me one time too many and I got out. How long will it take you?
You have my blessing and my sympathy. But, don’t come crying to me or the other ex wives he has when he does you wrong too. Oh, you don’t recognize the pattern of behavior? I’m so sorry your rose colored glasses are fogged up, but I do not have a Kleenex to offer to help you clean them!
These are the thoughts of some ex wives when they hear their ex husbands have remarried. You might wonder to yourself where the thoughts of jealousy are and also why you aren’t feeling them. But, don’t wonder, it just means you are healed. It means that husband/wife bond you shared all those years is severed beyond repair. It means you know you got out in one piece. It means you found the YOU that you love again.
Author Bio: Lee Block, a Post-Divorce Consultant and author of The Post-Divorce Chronicles and founder of The Post-Divorce Dating Club is a divorced mother of two, who is passionate about empowering women in transition to find a new life!