Submitted by: Elise Fee
I certainly can’t take credit for this wise, yet humorous saying…but I do enjoy how it speaks directly to the matter. When things appear to be horrible, unbearable, challenging and dark, we have a hard time remembering that there is a pony (a gift) to be found.
In most cases, it takes much passing of time, coupled with reflective hindsight, before we begin to glimpse the benefit or gift that came with the difficulties. But I’m guessing that you’ve experienced this – having a very challenging life experience that you thought was just the worst, only to look back years later and see a true blessing that came along with it.
I’m not saying that the blessing makes the challenge any easier – even with hindsight, the pain can still be present. A good example that I’ve seen over and over is when a parent loses a child to illness or some other calamity. And then that parent becomes an advocate to help others – perhaps raising awareness and funds to combat the disease, or educating parents about safety issues regarding their children.
Out of the pain and trauma, these courageous parents have found the “pony”…and have chosen to channel their energies and emotions into helping others. They chose not to stay mired in the pain and tragedy….and instead created change and took proactive action in honor of their child’s memory.
I’ve heard it said that our scars remind us of where we’ve been, but they don’t have to dictate where we’re going. And so it is that every experience we’ve had in life has helped to mold, shape and even carve us into who we are today. Without those challenging experiences in our lives, we wouldn’t have the strength, the resiliency, the compassion and empathy that we now have.
I just reconnected with some high school friends whom I haven’t talked to in decades. One in particular is going through a tough time in her life…and I reminded her that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel…even when we can’t see it at the moment.
When life seems dark and difficult, it really helps to remember that the light is there….and we WILL come out of the darkness. We will eventually see past the pile of manure….. and remember to look around for the pony.
Elise Fee is a Consulting Hypnotist and Life Mentor – her business “EliseOnLife” helps clients get a new lease on life — http://www.EliseOnLife.com. Elise works with clients via private consultations, either in person or over the phone.