When we come upon circumstances in our lives that we don’t find pleasing, there are several possible responses. One is to complain about it (and this seems to be the most common response), a second is to accept the situation ‘as is’, and the third is to leave (to remove yourself from the situation altogether).
Let’s take a closer look at each of these options. The favorite response is to complain about things, perhaps in the hopes that a vocal rejection of the situation might change it. But Eckhart Tolle says, “To complain is always nonacceptance of what is. It invariably carries an unconscious negative charge. When you complain, you make yourself a victim.”
No wonder we don’t feel better after complaining. In fact, we typically feel worse, and then begin to notice lots of other things that aren’t ‘right’ in the world. Negative attracts negative, and so we find more to bemoan. And ultimately it really affects us the most (although it will also bother those around us to hear all that negative energy spewing forth). We feel terrible, are unhappy and are stressed. So common sense says that this doesn’t sound like the best response.
Option two is to accept ‘what is’. This means we let go of all of our expectations of how things should be, how it should turn out, how it should look, etc. When we do this, we open up to whatever will be. We are accepting of whatever happens, whatever it looks like, and in whatever time frame it occurs. In other words, we are at peace with the situation, no matter what. This feels good to those around us, and more importantly, it feels good to us. We are calm, peaceful and accepting.
The third possible response is to leave the situation. If you don’t like it and can’t accept it, then leave. It’s really that simple. Let’s say you’re at a party and the host’s children are being wild and noisy. You don’t choose to complain about it (after all that doesn’t do you any good); you don’t choose to accept it and stay at the party under those conditions; so you can choose to leave and go somewhere else.
This doesn’t mean you have to be upset and leave in a huff — rather, you can graciously thank the host for the occasion and make an unobtrusive exit. Then you can go do something that you would enjoy, perhaps something quieter and more relaxing for you.
Eckhart Tolle also said, “Leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness.” So the next time you find yourself in a situation where you are not feeling good, instead of complaining and making yourself feel worse, choose to “Take it or Leave it”. In other words, choose to accept it the way it is, or choose to leave it completely. The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment
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