Divorce can potentially be a very messy process and is always an emotionally draining thing for anybody to have to go through. Nobody finds it in the slightest bit easy. When somebody is contemplating or actually going through a divorce, a friend is often just the thing they need. So, if you’re a friend of a divorcee or a potential divorcee, how can you best help them through their troubles?
First and foremost, the best way to help your friend through a divorce or, indeed, the decision making process, is simply to spend time with them. The thing that they will likely need most is either an ear to talk to or a shoulder to cry on, so just being there for them – whether it is in person or on the phone – is of utmost importance. It will not only show a sign of solidarity for you as friends, but it will also make them feel more solid as an individual.
So many unhappy people can become scared of divorce because they have nobody to turn to, nobody to support them through it, so it always helps to make it known to them that you are there if they need you.
Buying gifts for her might be a nice way to cheer her up in the short term – bunches of flowers direct to the door never fail to bring a smile to somebody’s face. Flowers, as you probably know, can have many different connotations, so you will need to be careful about picking the right ones for the situation (assuming that recipient is aware of the symbolism behind certain flowers!).
Even if giving a gift or two means that she starts thinking of thank you gift ideas for just being there for her as a friend, at least you have gone some way to taking her mind off the divorce. After all, that is one of the reasons for which they might want you there as a friend. They might want to talk about it in depth or they might want to talk about everything but the divorce so they can enjoy themselves again – either way, if you’re there every step of the way, they’ll feel more confident about making one of the toughest decisions life can throw up.
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