Meet The Founders
Cathy Meyer
I’ve been divorced for 11 years and understand what it means to need support when moving on with life after a divorce. I had the same experiences during and after my divorce that many women experience today – learning to navigate the Family Court system, becoming a full-time, single mom, healing the pain of divorce, changing relationships with friends and family and finding new love, not to mention supporting myself and my two boys.
There were no magazines or books devoted to issues faced by divorcing or divorced women when I went through the process; nowhere to turn for support. Family and friends were supportive up to a point, but they wanted me to move on long before I felt the ability to do so. As a divorced woman, I needed real information around the real life issues I was facing at that time.
So, I finished my degree in Psychology, became a certified Marriage Educator, Legal Investigator and Divorce Consultant, and set out to inform women like me – women who needed someone to turn to while attempting to grow through a time of adversity in their lives.
Today, I am the expert for the Divorce Support site at About.com. I have written resource articles for First Wives World and worked with divorcing clients and Family Law attorneys as a Legal Investigator. Combining my knowledge with experts in various fields, I hope DivorcedWomenOnline.com can be a source of information and inspiration for divorced women who are rebuilding and moving on with life.
To enhance communication and a sense of community, DivorcedWomenonline.com recently introduced a new community dedicated to the divorcing and divorced woman. If you want to connect one on one with women who are either going through the divorce process or rebuilding after divorce please visit the DWO community.
These days I am still single (and loving it) and I live in Tennessee. Both my boys are grown now but remain close to me both emotionally and physically. I share my home with Jitter, Corona and Samson and my life with close family relationships and many loving, supportive friends.
Delaine Moore
For eight years, I lived what appeared to be the family dream – three young kids, a nice home, a loving husband…
But at age 37, my entire identity was wiped out by infidelity and divorce. I followed all of society’s rules, I thought lifelessly. And for what – THIS?
To my absolute shock however, one part of me suddenly came alive: my sexuality. I wrestled with it hard, trying to push it down. I was a stay-at-home MOM after all, and one who conducted herself by high morals and principles.
But my body wanted what it wanted. And, because my head and heart were too messed up to take charge, I followed it. Over the next year, my body thrust my life forward, demanding that I recognize how much of my Self and passion I’d sublimated to be the perfect mom and wife. It was time to get ‘her’ back.
My body-driven awakenings drove me to write my upcoming memoir, A Woman’s Body Never Lies. It is the hard-earned story of how my body roused to become both my rescuer and master spiritual teacher during a critical year of change and self-discovery. In life events stripping me down to my bare bones, I realized that my body wore it all – my pains, my placations, my truth, my desires. Problem was, I’d never learned how to listen to it; a wound that festers in the souls of women everywhere.
Now, almost three years into my divorce, though I feel like a different Woman within my skin, the learning continues – the good, the bad, and the ‘naughty’. Sometimes I still have bad moments, even bad days, where I feel completely overwhelmed with my plate of life. But mmmmm, sometimes it’s as satisfying as a piece of chocolate cake (*wink).
Even if I don’t know where exactly my life is headed, I know I’ll never suppress my passionate Self to be what someone else wants me to be. Nor will I settle for a life of mediocrity again. And I want other divorcing women to know that even though this crisis looks and feels like hell, it is NOT their final destination; it is but a detour of hard-knocks designed to bring them home – to themselves.
A formally trained journalist and cognitive therapist, Delaine is a guest expert contributor to The New York Times’ About on the topics of sex and dating post-divorce, and First Wives World. Her essay, “Less Than a Bump and a Grind,” won the Readers’ Choice Award in Novelette.com’s essay competition and has been chosen to be published in their upcoming book (Fall 2010). She recently appeared as a guest on Cosmopolitan Magazine’s Cosmo Radio (SIRIUS Satellite radio) talk show, “Get in Bed” and her memoir, A Woman’s Body Never Lies, is currently under agent submission to major publishing houses.
