Ask The Divorce Coach: Trying To Parent With A Broken Heart

Question:
Dear Shelley:
I want to know what steps I should take to get over my anger and hurt so I can be a normal mom again to my two kids.
I was married for nine years and found out shortly after our eighth wedding anniversary that he was cheating.  My anger lies in the fact that for [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Broke & Powerless From Legal Fees

Question:
Dear Shelley:
I am really struggling.  I was married for almost ten years and have two children.   My husband and I have been to court three times already.  At the last hearing, the judge asked both attorneys if all issues were resolved and both said yes – but my ex and his attorney have not completed [...]

How to Leave an Abusive Husband

Planning your escape from an abusive husband.
Every first step begins with a plan. If you’ve spent time in an abusive relationship getting out means planning for your escape; where you will live, your financial future. While putting your plan together follow the rules below. Keep yourself safe until you can get out of the relationship [...]

Physical Abuse Checklist: Are You in a Physically Abusive Relationship?

What is physical abuse?
Physical abuse leaves behind bruises and broken bones, while emotional abuse kills the self esteem of the victim. Physical abuse is a situation where the husband beats the wife for little or no reason. Are you subjected to any of the below signs of physical abuse?

Pushes, grabs or shoves you
Slaps you
Punches you
Kicks [...]

Emotional Abuse Checklist: Are You Being Emotionally Abused?

What is emotional abuse?
There is no universally accepted definition of emotional abuse. Like other forms of violence in relationships, emotional abuse is based on power and control. The following are widely recognized as forms of emotional abuse: Your spouse…

Frequently blames or criticizes you
Calls you names
Ridicules your beliefs, religion, race class or sexual [...]

Is Infidelity a Form of Domestic Abuse?

In many instances, betrayal through infidelity can be very close to what we term domestic violence. Unfaithful husbands, especially if your husband has passive aggressive tendencies, are often insensitive to the pain they inflict, just as are perpetrators of physical and psychological violence.
Often a wife is as vulnerable and dependent as the victim of repeated [...]

New York Goes No-Fault: What Does This Mean For Women?

Submitted by: Madeline Grace
Are no-fault divorce laws in the best financial interest of women? Not according to the study below.
In the late 1980s, several states set up task forces to study gender bias in the courts. For example, in Colorado, one section of the task force was charged with the area of divorce. It studied [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: He had an affair with my best friend & refuses to divorce me

Question:
Dear Shelley:
Five years ago my husband started an affair with my very best friend in the whole world.  My husband felt neglected by me which, in a sense, was true – with menopause and other issues I was going through, I sort of ended up in this black hole.
During this time, he has left on [...]

“Love The Way You Lie” Spotlights Domestic Abuse

Submitted by Amelia
The most dangerous time for a woman in an abusive marriage is when she tries to leave him - that’s when close to 50% of violent crimes are committed, including homocide.  And to drive this point home, American rapper Eminem (with Rihanna) doesn’t mix words in his dramatic new release, Love The Way You Lie.  The rage, the regret, [...]

Is Divorce Inevitable?

Submitted by: Big Little Wolf
We’ve certainly had our fill of celebrity scandals in the past year – more than enough to fill the tabloids as we cluck our tongues and shake our heads.
We’ve been dumbstruck at the sheer number of Tiger’s infidelities. We’ve been impressed by Sandra Bullock’s class act. We’re appalled at Mel [...]

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