Round 3 of contemplating Divorce – Torn up inside!!

In the community Leanne left the following comment – please read and offer her your advice: Long story short: Married 6 together 10, 2 little girls (1 teen son from previous relationship), we are both in our early 30′s. Things, upon reflecting back over the years, were never really that great between us. My husband [...]

My Divorce Journal: Using His Alcoholism Against Me!

Last week I was contemplating an eye opening question previously posed by our marriage counselor, this week I’m defensive about an eye opening question posed by my husband Then – 12/23/2003 “Last night was quite interesting.  When ‘Carl’ came home from his AA meeting he was in a bad mood.  It appears that some people [...]

My Divorce Journal Then and Now: What Would You Miss if He Weren’t Around?

Then 12/11/2003 “The big topic that came up during our argument was that he feels I don’t even want to be in a relationship.  He feels that when he’s recovered I don’t even want to stay around; he thinks I’ve already made up my mind on the subject and that nothing he does to get [...]

To Jump or Not To Jump: Divorcing the Past and Embracing the Future

Submitted by: Cougel at “The Cougel Chronicles: Tales of a Jewish Cougar” Have you arrived at the very last stop on the marriage train? Did you get on the train early and shut your eyes tight, when all along, there were stops where you could have opened your eyes and reframed your outlook, so that [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: If Only I Could Change Him…

Submitted by: Shelley Stile Question: Dear Shelley, I know I should move on – the list of “cons” to being married to him is so LOOOONG.   But I am attached/co-dependent on him and I constantly think about what we COULD have (if he was different) and I keep hoping and beleiving that MAYBE if he would [...]

What Happens When we Fail to Pause?

Submitted by: Beverly Willett “Do you blog?” “You must blog!”  “What do you mean you don’t blog?”  Comments to me, the woman who resisted e-mail as long as she could.  The former lawyer who still wrote longhand on yellow legal pads long after word processing became de rigueur. My daughter rolled her eyes when I [...]

The Passive Aggressive Man: He is All About Control

If you were married to him, you know what I’m talking about. If you weren’t be on the look-out because chances are you will cross paths with a passive aggressive man? Who is the passive aggressive man? He is that guy who avoids responsibility and conflict through passivity and withdrawal. He is the “Nice Guy” [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: No Longer Connected

Question: Dear Shelley, I have been married for four years. It is my first marriage and his second.  He continually says things to me like, “this ship has sailed”, “you and I don’t connect at all” and “our marriage is failing 100% because of you.”  So I tell him I want to work out an [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Staying Married Only Because of Money

Question: Dear Shelley, I am in a nine-year marriage marriage and there is no love left between us.  All we do is argue, we can’t communicate, there is no intimacy whatsoever, and I am currently unemployed. I don’t know how I can support myself if I divorce him.  There are no jobs in my city. It [...]

How to Leave an Abusive Husband

Planning your escape from an abusive husband. Every first step begins with a plan. If you’ve spent time in an abusive relationship getting out means planning for your escape; where you will live, your financial future. While putting your plan together follow the rules below. Keep yourself safe until you can get out of the [...]

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