How to Leave an Abusive Husband

Planning your escape from an abusive husband.
Every first step begins with a plan. If you’ve spent time in an abusive relationship getting out means planning for your escape; where you will live, your financial future. While putting your plan together follow the rules below. Keep yourself safe until you can get out of the relationship [...]

Is Divorce Inevitable?

Submitted by: Big Little Wolf
We’ve certainly had our fill of celebrity scandals in the past year – more than enough to fill the tabloids as we cluck our tongues and shake our heads.
We’ve been dumbstruck at the sheer number of Tiger’s infidelities. We’ve been impressed by Sandra Bullock’s class act. We’re appalled at Mel [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: To Divorce…Or Not Divorce

Question:
Dear Shelley,
I have been with my spouse for 10 rocky years.  It is the second marriage for both.  Our marriage has been plagued and blessed with various events – blended family, a child of our own, depression, health issues, death of parents.  My spouse suffers from depression and EDD, and I think he is a [...]

Al and Tipper Gore: A New Trend Toward Midlife Divorce?

Submitted by: Big Little Wolf
Al and Tipper Gore to Divorce
Unless you’ve been living under a rock, by now you’ve heard the term gray divorce, likely in conjunction with the news that Al and Tipper Gore are splitting up after 40 years.
Of course, the original announcement was followed by a claim that Al [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Is It Time To Leave?

Dear Shelley –
My wife had, and is, most likely having an affair. Today is the one year anniversary of discovery. Background: sexless marriage for 11 years. No intimacy of any type, no sex, hugs, kisses. Nothing. When I confronted her about her having an affair, she shut down.  She will not accept the living hell 24/7 [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Husband has left to go ‘find himself’

Dear Shelley:
My husband moved out to “find himself” and decide if he wants to work on our marriage of 22 years or if he wants to be single.
He had an affair and I lived with this knowledge and his sadness after the other woman dumped him for fear that her husband would find out.  Nonethethless I was still willing to [...]

The Transformational Power of Emotional Pain

Submitted by: Malou
I have been living a life short of a fairy tale until that fateful day last year. A job, a wonderful husband, a delightful daughter, a big house complete with a garden, a whole room dedicated just for my clothes and shoes….I was a princess!! The only thing missing was a dog and [...]

In Defense of Dads who Leave

Submitted by: Maya
As a child of divorce I suddenly have an urge to talk about something that lies very deep within yet can be scratched so easily…
I hated it when my kids would ‘have’ to go to their dad’s house.  They’d pack, half reluctantly, half excitedly ~ and I think they’d pick up on my [...]

No Room For Hate

Submitted by: Maya
I have a male friend whose divorce appears to be inevitable.  He’s been married for about 25 years.  They just took their last of three sons off to his freshman year in college, some two-day drive away.  As he and she were driving home in the warm Virginia sunshine, she told him that [...]