Parental Alienation: “A Uterus, Divorce Papers and Bruises”

Submited by: Cathy
Father’s right activists have been attempting to have Parental Alienation Disorder added to the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM V), the American Psychiatric Association’s “bible” of diagnoses.
The National Organization for Women learned about the effort and is concerned. They have now sent out an Action Alert [...]

Serving It Up Cold To That Lying, Cheating Bastard

Submitted by Delaine
When you found out your spouse was cheating, were you obsessed with thoughts of revenge?  Throwing all his clothes in a heap on the lawn…slashing his tires…or forwarding copies of his cyber sex sessions to his entire address book?   Maybe your fantasies were more devious – perhaps they involved some Superglue and the bathroom throne.  [...]

Understanding the Pain and Rejection of Infidelity

Submitted by: Erica Manfred
Women who have been left for another woman describe the experience in extreme terms:  Stella, sixty-two, whose husband left her for someone else after thirty-three years of marriage was typical:  “ I cried every day for two months.  I still cry two years later.  And railed and screamed in the car and [...]

When an Ex Won’t Let Go

Submitted by: Joni James

Divorce must end. There has to be a point where everyone finds neutrality around the events of divorce. We can’t move ahead without letting go of our past, clearing the way for better things to come into our lives. There are many ways to hold on: longing, depression, actively seeking attention. Other [...]

Mental Health: Why Aren’t We More Concerned?

Submitted by: Cathy
Anyone reading this ever miss your yearly mammogram? We all rush to the doctor when we come down with a physical ailment. For some reason though we make excuses or ignore signs that point to something being off kilter mentally.
The stigma attached to “mental illness,” results in unneeded suffering. We can admit when [...]

What do You Say to a Grieving Friend?

Submitted by: Maya
 
I’m in a unique situation as I grow older with my lovely girl and boy friends around  me.  I’m happy.  Most of them seem to be struggling or preparing for a struggle.  I don’t know what to do about this.
I had the misfortune to lose my brother at the age of 14.  He [...]

Turning an Unwanted Divorce Into an Opportunity

Submitted: Maya
I was reading Cathy’s advice to Mindy.  Mindy who is experiencing everything that we experience when it all falls apart.  I wanted to respond but it’s too long for just a comment…  here we go:
Mindy, this is a time like no other.  You are allowed to grieve, to be raging mad, to cry ~ [...]

Healing the Pain and Anger of an Unwanted Divorce

Question from a reader: My husband left me three months ago and I’m having a hard time moving past the pain and anger his leaving has caused. I’ve lost weight, cry a lot and everything reminds me of him and things we used to do together. I feel angry and I can’t even describe the [...]

Depression…Do You Get It?

My Godson suicided last week.  The ultimate rascal, he was always naughty but never mean.  He has gone through a maze of issues for the past five years and had tried very hard to heal from his depression.
In the aftermath, I have spoken to many different people.  Many have strongly stated that they cannot [...]

May There Be Angels Beneath The Support Beams of My House

Submitted by Delaine
 
Chaos. 
 
The external components of my life keep shifting…giving way…breaking. 
 
In my mind’s eye I see the support beams of a house built over water, cracking…adjusting…dangling.  Yet I know, I know that that house is ME: my bones, my soul, my reality. 
 
My muscles tense with anger.  I’m gripping, hanging on, protesting.  I [...]