Friend or Foe? How Loved Ones Can Hold Us Back During Divorce

Submitted by: Tara Eisenhard I was lucky to have the support of my friends and family when I went through my divorce.  While I’m grateful, I also recognize how those closest to us can hold us back and prevent healthy closure. Upon hearing the news of my cheating husband and pending separation, a co-worker advised, “You’ll [...]

Grateful For His Betrayal!

Submitted by: Tara Eisenhard I never believed my miserable marriage would actually last forever.  I also couldn’t imagine how it would end.  That is, until it did… It was May 24, 2006.  I spent the evening with old friends.  My husband worked late and then had dinner at a coworker’s house (or so he said). [...]

Understanding the Pain and Rejection of Infidelity

Submitted by: Erica Manfred Women who have been left for another woman describe the experience in extreme terms:  Stella, sixty-two, whose husband left her for someone else after thirty-three years of marriage was typical:  “ I cried every day for two months.  I still cry two years later.  And railed and screamed in the car [...]

Eight Signs He Is Cheating

Adultery is a tricky situation, it is hard to be sure if a husband is cheating but it pays to protect yourself. We live in the age of technology, cell phones; the internet…temptation is everywhere, lovers are easily accessible and we can all be tempted…husbands and wives. If you suspect he is being unfaithful be [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Move on? Let Go? Pfft. Yeah, right.

Question: Dear Shelley, “Moving on” and “letting go”.  These are the two phrases I HATE the most. My ex revealed his affair in July of ’09. I filed for divorce in August and he moved in with his girlfriend. We were married nine years and have two kids. His girlfriend just gave birth to their [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Where is HIS Bad Karma?

Question: Dear Shelley, I broke up with a man five months ago whom I was with for six years. Two months after we broke up he was engaged to another woman and didn’t even bother telling me. It became apparent to me that he was with this woman when we were together but I didn’t [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Trying To Parent With A Broken Heart

Question: Dear Shelley: I want to know what steps I should take to get over my anger and hurt so I can be a normal mom again to my two kids. I was married for nine years and found out shortly after our eighth wedding anniversary that he was cheating.  My anger lies in the [...]

Is Infidelity a Form of Domestic Abuse?

In many instances, betrayal through infidelity can be very close to what we term domestic violence. Unfaithful husbands, especially if your husband has passive aggressive tendencies, are often insensitive to the pain they inflict, just as are perpetrators of physical and psychological violence. Often a wife is as vulnerable and dependent as the victim of [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: He had an affair with my best friend & refuses to divorce me

Question: Dear Shelley: Five years ago my husband started an affair with my very best friend in the whole world.  My husband felt neglected by me which, in a sense, was true – with menopause and other issues I was going through, I sort of ended up in this black hole. During this time, he [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: I’d do ANYTHING to bring him back…

Question: Hi Shelley, About 2 1/2 years ago my husband of 16 years told me he didn’t love me anymore.  I immediately started vomiting and became hysterical. I was a stay-at-home mom to three kids, had worshiped the ground he walked on, and thought he was my best friend. I later found out that he [...]

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