Ask The Divorce Coach: Trying To Parent With A Broken Heart

Question:
Dear Shelley:
I want to know what steps I should take to get over my anger and hurt so I can be a normal mom again to my two kids.
I was married for nine years and found out shortly after our eighth wedding anniversary that he was cheating.  My anger lies in the fact that for [...]

Is Infidelity a Form of Domestic Abuse?

In many instances, betrayal through infidelity can be very close to what we term domestic violence. Unfaithful husbands, especially if your husband has passive aggressive tendencies, are often insensitive to the pain they inflict, just as are perpetrators of physical and psychological violence.
Often a wife is as vulnerable and dependent as the victim of repeated [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: He had an affair with my best friend & refuses to divorce me

Question:
Dear Shelley:
Five years ago my husband started an affair with my very best friend in the whole world.  My husband felt neglected by me which, in a sense, was true – with menopause and other issues I was going through, I sort of ended up in this black hole.
During this time, he has left on [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: I’d do ANYTHING to bring him back…

Question:
Hi Shelley,
About 2 1/2 years ago my husband of 16 years told me he didn’t love me anymore.  I immediately started vomiting and became hysterical. I was a stay-at-home mom to three kids, had worshiped the ground he walked on, and thought he was my best friend.
I later found out that he had been cheating [...]

Girlfriend Advice:Stop Comparing Yourself To HER

Submitted by Delaine
Recently, I sat with my emotionally devastated friend Maddie who had just discovered her husband was having an affair.   Why?  When?  How?  Now what?  her brain raced to answer, as she felt her family dream falling to the ground in slow motion.
But it didn’t take long for her to start doing what most of us women do when [...]

Self-Loathing & The Cheater

Submitted by Delaine

It may not seem it. But it’s there, deep within him.
It is beyond his admission, beyond his self-awareness. But it’s there… eating away at his soul:
His self-loathing.

He may seem all blissfully happy-in-love with her – just look at that skip in his step! That skips says that he wants nothing more [...]

“TigerText”- A Way For Cheaters to Cover Their Tracks

Submitted by Delaine
It’s something I bet Tiger Woods wished he’d had - and something everyone, including cheaters, can now take advantage of.  It’s called TigerText.  And it can kill embarassing text messages or ‘evidence’ – forever.
Released this past February by California start-up, X Sigma Partners, TigerText is an iPhone application that enables users to set a lifespan [...]

Unusual Bedroom Behavior: Signs A Spouse May Be Cheating

It was only in hindsight that Gail realized that signs of her husband’s cheating had been present for months: in the bedroom.
“Out of blue, he kept trying a new sexual position,” said Gail.  “I thought maybe he’d seen it in a movie or something.  ‘C’mon,’ he’d say, ‘Just put these pillows under your hips, I know you’ll love it.’  And [...]

“I Grew Balls”: How One Wife Confronted The ‘Other Woman’ To Find The Truth

Submitted by Delaine
It wasn’t until ’she’ phoned in the middle of the night that Pam became suspicious.  The woman was obviously drunk, her voice a string of slurs.  And when Pam asked, “Who is this?”, all she got heard was “(Giggles) Just a friend…(click).”
The next day, Pam confronted her husband.  Completely taken off guard, he insisted they were “only [...]

Ask the Divorce Doctor: The Other Woman Was a Prostitute!

Get answers to your divorce questions from author Erica Manfred.
Editor’s Note: Erica Manfred, author of He’s History, You’re Not: Surviving Divorce After 40, is answering your questions about divorce — from how to deal with betrayal, to surviving the first year, to dating again, to finding a new career. Our “Divorce Doctor” looks forward to [...]

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