The Transformational Power of Emotional Pain

Submitted by: Malou
I have been living a life short of a fairy tale until that fateful day last year. A job, a wonderful husband, a delightful daughter, a big house complete with a garden, a whole room dedicated just for my clothes and shoes….I was a princess!! The only thing missing was a dog and [...]

Healing the Pain of an Unwanted Divorce

Submitted by: Cathy
Have you found yourself the recipient of an unwanted divorce? Your spouse may have just walked out, or left you for another woman. There may have been a midlife crisis and you no longer fit into his “new life.”
Whatever the reason, coping with an unwanted divorce can be very difficult. Many people in [...]

Redo and Reclaim The Master Bedroom – Why & How

Submitted by Delaine
Within months of separating from my ex two years ago, I suddenly felt an incredible need to redecorate the master bedroom.   I’m not sure if I did it more as a mental distraction at the time, or if some unconscious part of me knew I needed  to ‘get him out of there” and make a [...]

Understanding the Pain and Rejection of Infidelity

Submitted by: Erica Manfred
Women who have been left for another woman describe the experience in extreme terms:  Stella, sixty-two, whose husband left her for someone else after thirty-three years of marriage was typical:  “ I cried every day for two months.  I still cry two years later.  And railed and screamed in the car and [...]

Forgiving Yourself

Submitted by: Erica Manfred
If you’re overwhelmed with self-blame here’s a great quote from Bonnie Russell, the founder of www.FamilyLawCourts.com.
She says:
I’ve found women, especially therapists and other helping professionals,, have trouble forgiving themselves.  They constantly berate themselves with:   “I should have seen it, known it, realized it,”  followed by “I wasted (fill in the blank)  years.”

I [...]

Fostering Happiness in a Time of Adversity

Submitted by: Maya
When my marriage ended, it felt like the end of the world to me.  I had wanted out for a very long time but I assumed that it would be a dignified process, normal squabbles, but he and I had a friendship behind us and we both wanted the same thing.  It should [...]

Loneliness and Isolation: Is it Time to Rescue Yourself?

Submitted by: Big Little Wolf
We live in a land of put-on-your-happy-face. We set the mask in place in the morning, then greet the world. If we want smooth sailing – and a chance at “success” – we maintain it.
Can’t breathe in there under that mask? Suck it up! It’s euphemism time, and that means presenting [...]

Self-Help: Helpful to Some, Offensive to Others

Submitted by: Erica Manfred
My book, He’s History; You’re Not: Surviving Divorce After Forty, is a very candid account of my marriage and how it ended. An Amazon reader gave me a review which took issue with my telling the truth about my husband “without providing him a forum to defend himself” because she thought that [...]

Navigating and Moving on After Divorce: Tips for The Woman Over 40

Submitted by: Erica Manfred
I’m submitting this list to a local paper so I thought I’d give my blog readers the benefit of some great advice.  Hope some of this helps you.
1. Don’t be afraid to fight for alimony for life if you’ve been married for more than fifteen years and you’re over 55. Alimony these days is [...]

Turning an Unwanted Divorce Into an Opportunity

Submitted: Maya
I was reading Cathy’s advice to Mindy.  Mindy who is experiencing everything that we experience when it all falls apart.  I wanted to respond but it’s too long for just a comment…  here we go:
Mindy, this is a time like no other.  You are allowed to grieve, to be raging mad, to cry ~ [...]

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