How to Leave an Abusive Husband

Planning your escape from an abusive husband.
Every first step begins with a plan. If you’ve spent time in an abusive relationship getting out means planning for your escape; where you will live, your financial future. While putting your plan together follow the rules below. Keep yourself safe until you can get out of the relationship [...]

Physical Abuse Checklist: Are You in a Physically Abusive Relationship?

What is physical abuse?
Physical abuse leaves behind bruises and broken bones, while emotional abuse kills the self esteem of the victim. Physical abuse is a situation where the husband beats the wife for little or no reason. Are you subjected to any of the below signs of physical abuse?

Pushes, grabs or shoves you
Slaps you
Punches you
Kicks [...]

Emotional Abuse Checklist: Are You Being Emotionally Abused?

What is emotional abuse?
There is no universally accepted definition of emotional abuse. Like other forms of violence in relationships, emotional abuse is based on power and control. The following are widely recognized as forms of emotional abuse: Your spouse…

Frequently blames or criticizes you
Calls you names
Ridicules your beliefs, religion, race class or sexual [...]

Is Infidelity a Form of Domestic Abuse?

In many instances, betrayal through infidelity can be very close to what we term domestic violence. Unfaithful husbands, especially if your husband has passive aggressive tendencies, are often insensitive to the pain they inflict, just as are perpetrators of physical and psychological violence.
Often a wife is as vulnerable and dependent as the victim of repeated [...]

“Love The Way You Lie” Spotlights Domestic Abuse

Submitted by Amelia
The most dangerous time for a woman in an abusive marriage is when she tries to leave him - that’s when close to 50% of violent crimes are committed, including homocide.  And to drive this point home, American rapper Eminem (with Rihanna) doesn’t mix words in his dramatic new release, Love The Way You Lie.  The rage, the regret, [...]

Will He Kill Me If I Try To Leave? A Tool To Assess Your Danger

Submitted by Amelia Delayne
According to security expert Gavin de Becker, who was a recent guest on Oprah, six women die every day in the United States by the hands of their spouse or boyfriend.   When is an abused woman at her greatest risk?   When she attempts to leave him. And Becker wants women to know that a FREE [...]

Growing Up and Growing Apart Part II

He did not set out to be abusive.  He felt that punching a wall was an acceptable way of getting rid of his anger.  He and I both believed that we were lucky that he had such good self control when we’d look at the hole in the door.  It was so out-of-character for him [...]

Growing Up and Growing Apart Part I

Growing up, all I wanted to be was a mother.  After high school, I was shipped off to college without complaint but also without the desire to go.  I just wanted to have a home, a peaceful home, filled with children and cooking aromas and flowers in the garden.
I married a nice boy from a [...]

I Served Him My Body Like a Plate of Chicken

Snapshot: I was three months pregnant with my first child. I was on my knees in front of the toilet bowl, having just thrown up for the sixth time that day. Suddenly, movement at the bathroom door caught my eye.

He was standing there. Naked. Touching himself. “Are you done yet?” he asked impatiently. “C-mon [...]