Wondering How Your Kids Are Feeling About the Divorce? Take Them to a Movie and Find Out!

Submitted by: Mark Banschick M.D.
Movies can be a wonderful way to connect to your kids as your family go through a divorce. The reason for this is because of a psychological relief called displacement. Let me explain.
When you directly ask your kids how they feel about the divorce, it’s sometimes difficult for them to explain. [...]

Blended Family Vacations – How to be Successful

Submitted by Shirley Cress Dudley
You and your new spouse/boyfriend are wondering what to do about a vacation… 
Do you have the fantastic idea of taking your newly blended family on a three-week car ride all around the United States?
Uh oh… maybe you haven’t thought this through.                       
Your spouse/boyfriend is asking if maybe we should just take separate [...]

The Passive Aggressive Man: He is All About Control

If you were married to him, you know what I’m talking about. If you weren’t be on the look-out because chances are you will cross paths with a passive aggressive man?
Who is the passive aggressive man? He is that guy who avoids responsibility and conflict through passivity and withdrawal. He is the “Nice Guy” who [...]

Vacation, Divorce and You

Submitted by: Mark Banschick M.D.
Tailor Summer Vacation to Meet Your Children’s Needs
Hello Summer: Summertime is here, and with it comes unique hurdles and real opportunities for families of divorce. Parents who are early on in the divorce process need to think carefully about their plans and tailor them for their children. What we want is [...]

Top Ten Signs You Have A Successful Blended Family

Submitted by Shirley Cress Dudley
1- You and your spouse have clear house rules that apply to all blended family members
Yes, this means that house rules don’t change when you are tired, or your spouse is out of town.  Both biological children and stepchildren all follow the same rules.  It really does help when the parents [...]

Guidelines For a Smoother Divorce

Submitted by Shirley Cress Dudley
1- Keep contact to a minimum.
One phone call a day is excessive, several text messages a day is extremely excessive.  If you have a subject related to the kids- speak briefly and clearly about your expectations.  Emails are better than phone calls, if your issue is not an emergency.
2- Do not [...]

Running on Empty: How to Fight Single Mom Burn-Out

Submitted by: Cathy
Is multi-tasking your standard method of operating? If you are a woman, it probably is. Married or single us women are caregivers, problems solvers…we are everything to everyone.
If you are a divorced, single mom who works, more than likely you are stressed out and exhausted. Your day may start at 6:30 am and [...]

Rocky Balboa’s Got Nothing On Single Moms!

 
Submitted by Delaine
I’m writing this article with the theme song of the movie Rocky playing in my mind.  For at this very moment, I don’t just feel like Delaine The Divorced Mother who raises her three kids 95% of the time on her own with no help.  No no -  I am a champion; my feet [...]

What Kind Of Man Wants ‘Serious’ With A Single Mom?

Submitted by Delaine
So I broke up with someone last week – a single dad of two.   He’s the first man I’ve gone out with since divorcing that I contemplated getting serious with whatsoever.  But even though we got along brilliantly, even though he said he was crazy about me, one main thing deterred his interest: the fact [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: The Boyfriend & The Ex

Question:
Dear Shelley:
I’ve been separated since May 2008 and my divorce should be final soon.  I began dating last year and earlier this year met and fell in love with a wonderful man.
We’ve been constant companions ever since.  My soon-to-be-ex has issues with my boyfriend (they have never actually met) and has been interrogating my children [...]

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