Parental Alienation: “A Uterus, Divorce Papers and Bruises”

Submited by: Cathy
Father’s right activists have been attempting to have Parental Alienation Disorder added to the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM V), the American Psychiatric Association’s “bible” of diagnoses.
The National Organization for Women learned about the effort and is concerned. They have now sent out an Action Alert [...]

Important Considerations: What would happen to your kids IF…?

Submitted by Delaine
This past week, Mother Nature unleashed her winter wrath up here in Calgary, Alberta.  We’re talking large dumps of snow and temperatures than hovered between -25 and -40 C  (that’s -12 to -40 F).  And though I’m accustomed to extreme weather conditions being a born and bred Canuck, something REALLY stood out for [...]

Keeping The Empty Chair At The Table Warm

Submitted by Delaine
I’ll admit, the fact that I’m a single mom to three kids with an ex who’s rarely around, has worried and terrified the hell out of me – sometimes to the point of tears or hours of depression.  I’ve felt alone in the corner,  trying desperately to make good parenting decisions, to do what’s [...]

Shielding Your Kids From “The Heat”

Studies have shown that it’s the ongoing hostilities between divorcing parents that really emotionally damage and traumatize children.   So how do you protect your children’s emotional well-being if divorce matters are in the Red Zone, the two of you aren’t speaking, and you can’t even stand being in the same building as him/her?
You may ‘know’ you should smile and talk civilly and put on [...]

Where I Heard A Lewd Comment, My Son Heard Wedding Bells

Submitted by Delaine
My eight-year-old son and I entered a conversation on my possibly remarrying the other day.  It came through a strange side-door.  We were walking down our street, I ahead of him, when two men walking the other way called out: “Fine fine fine, like a bottle of wine” followed by The Whistle.
“Why did they do that [...]

Children and Divorce: Minimizing the Trauma

Submitted by: Cathy
Each year, more than one million children experience the divorce of their parents. The trauma these children experience will normally begin long before the actual divorce.
It begins with parental disagreements and anger and continues to worsen throughout the divorce process. It can often last for many years after the divorce is final.
I [...]

The Wheel of Karma or What Goes Around Comes Around

Submitted By: Erica Manfred
 I have not only been the betrayed wife but the other woman.  I know how it feels to be in both positions.  No matter what they say, being the other woman was a hell of a lot easier.  Or maybe I was just younger then. 
 In college my boyfriend was married AND an [...]

Worries Of A Divorced Parent: Am I Doing ‘Enough’?

Submitted by Delaine
Even when I was married, I sometimes worried that I wasn’t doing ‘enough’ for my kids:  Should they be involved in more activities or less? Am I too strict or not strict enough?  Am I doing, saying, showing my kids enough of whatever they need to feel loved and special?  We only get one shot at raising our kids after [...]

My Kids Witness Broken Families – And it’s a Positive Thing

Submitted by Delaine
When I was a child, I remember hearing whispers about so-and-so’s parents getting divorced.  All I could think was ‘Oh my God, my friend’s life is over’.  For to be a child of divorce was marked with fear and shame.
 
Fast forward to the present and how my young children perceive divorce:  every second or third [...]

The Fake Smiles We Give Our Kids – Are We Fooling Them?

Submitted by Delaine
 
I love my kids more than life itself.  And since getting divorced, I’ve worked hard to ensure they not only adjusted, but thrived.
  
But sometimes life circumstances have beaten me down.  And my kids have seen me cry.  They’ve seen me stare out the window.  They’ve seen the shell of a woman named mom [...]

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