Ask the Divorce Coach: Ex Wife’s Boyfriend Too Involved With Children

Question: My question relates to my Ex’s boyfriend. After a rough separation/ Divorce (her idea -  final in 8/10; married for 12 yrs), she has been dating a guy for a few months and against my wishes -introduced him to our 2 Sons ( 6,and 11) in October. Anything I say falls on deaf ears [...]

Think Before You Speak: Parental Alienation-One Woman’s View

Submitted by: Big Little Wolf Parental alienation seems to be the rallying cry these days – for those divorcing or divorced. What is it, exactly? And why should we all be concerned about it? Let me be clear. I’m not an attorney and I’m not a therapist. But I am a long-term single parent who [...]

Reader Question: First Post-Divorce Christmas

Submitted by: Cathy Meyer My husband and I divorced several months ago after eleven years of marriage. He’s living in a neighboring town and we share custody of our children, ages nine and seven. It was a bitter divorce and our kids heard far too much anger towards the end. My question is what to [...]

Sitting and Waiting

Submitted by: Lee Block I sit by the window and wait.  I wait for him to bring the children home.  He is always late and never early.  I sit and I wait every single time he has visitation.  He has no regard.  Not for my time or the children’s, just his own.  It is infuriating. [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Should I tell my kids what he’s REALLY like?

Question: Dear Shelley, A few years ago I found out my husband was talking to women online, meeting up with them in hotel rooms at night, and getting drunk. I have been a very good mom and wife and have tried to live a Christian life in spite of him lying to our children and his secretive plans to [...]

Adversarial Divorce Attorneys: The Bunny Cage Case

Submitted by: Belinda Rachman I don’t’ remember when or how I found The Bunny Cage blog, but upon seeing the provocative photography of this self-styled Cindy Sherman of Wyoming, I started following Sara LeeAnn Banevedes. It was hard to believe someone so hip was living in a small town writing such interesting stories and taking [...]

Divorce: Respecting The Intergenerational Boundary

Submitted by: Mark Banschick M.D. There is a boundary between generations which is called the Intergenerational Boundary. This is a fundamental truism that I operate on when I see a family. Parents need to know what to share with their children and what they should keep to themselves. Oftentimes after a divorce, or even after [...]

A Child’s Bill of Rights

Submitted by: Mark Banschick M.D. Some divorced people feel so betrayed or hurt by their ex-spouse that they cannot get over their anger. They may want to retaliate and punish their ex-spouse. These attempts to punish don’t accomplish much, except perhaps making the angry spouse feel good for a brief moment. Kids deserve a “Bill [...]

Will my Divorce Affect my Children?

Submitted by: Mark Banschick M.D. This question undoubtedly wracks the minds and hearts of those contemplating, or going through, divorce. You want to know how the people you care most about —your children—will fare with a disrupted family. You wonder how they will cope when everything they know and trust changes. The answer is yes, [...]

Wondering How Your Kids Are Feeling About the Divorce? Take Them to a Movie and Find Out!

Submitted by: Mark Banschick M.D. Movies can be a wonderful way to connect to your kids as your family go through a divorce. The reason for this is because of a psychological relief called displacement. Let me explain. When you directly ask your kids how they feel about the divorce, it’s sometimes difficult for them [...]

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