The Passive Aggressive Man: He is All About Control

If you were married to him, you know what I’m talking about. If you weren’t be on the look-out because chances are you will cross paths with a passive aggressive man?
Who is the passive aggressive man? He is that guy who avoids responsibility and conflict through passivity and withdrawal. He is the “Nice Guy” who [...]

Guidelines For a Smoother Divorce

Submitted by Shirley Cress Dudley
1- Keep contact to a minimum.
One phone call a day is excessive, several text messages a day is extremely excessive.  If you have a subject related to the kids- speak briefly and clearly about your expectations.  Emails are better than phone calls, if your issue is not an emergency.
2- Do not [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: The Boyfriend & The Ex

Question:
Dear Shelley:
I’ve been separated since May 2008 and my divorce should be final soon.  I began dating last year and earlier this year met and fell in love with a wonderful man.
We’ve been constant companions ever since.  My soon-to-be-ex has issues with my boyfriend (they have never actually met) and has been interrogating my children [...]

Turning The Kids Against The Ex

Submitted by Shirley Cress Dudley
When parents get divorced, sometimes the divorce is less than amiable.  Parents may carry resentment and anger.  Unfortunately, sometimes those negative thoughts are communicated to our children.
I regularly hear from stepfamilies that have been told by their children that Mom (or Dad) doesn’t love them anymore or that their new [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Unable To Let Go Of Ex

 
Dear Shelley,
 
Why is it that I just can’t seem to let go of my ex-husband?  I literally stress myself out about it. Especially now that I know that he’s happy and engaged. Am I ever going to be happy? We recently got divorced in May of this year.
 
Rachel
 
Dear Rachel,

Have you accepted your new reality?  Are you [...]

Divorce Recovery: Beware Expectations

Submitted by Divorce Coach Shelley Stile
In a nutshell, expectations are premeditated resentments and disappointments. They are self-sabotaging beliefs we hold that literally set us up to feel bad and keep us stuck in the pain of our divorce. They are in direct conflict with how the world actually works and are based on the phrase, [...]

“I Grew Balls”: How One Wife Confronted The ‘Other Woman’ To Find The Truth

Submitted by Delaine
It wasn’t until ’she’ phoned in the middle of the night that Pam became suspicious.  The woman was obviously drunk, her voice a string of slurs.  And when Pam asked, “Who is this?”, all she got heard was “(Giggles) Just a friend…(click).”
The next day, Pam confronted her husband.  Completely taken off guard, he insisted they were “only [...]

Legal Action Can Help Mold A Child-Like Ex Into A Better Man

Submitted by Delaine
Sometimes dealing with an ex can feel like you’re dealing with a child:  you give and give and give….you kindly explain the same thing over and over and over again …yet still they don’t ‘get it.’ And though it’s sad to say - and painful to have to do - sometimes we have to take [...]

Ask The Divorce Doctor: When the Ex Isn’t Paying

Editor’s Note: Erica Manfred, author of He’s History, You’re Not: Surviving Divorce After 40, writes a weekly column at www.wowowow.com.
She answers reader questions about divorce, everything from how to deal with betrayal, to surviving the first year, to dating again, to finding a new career. If you have a question for the “Divorce Doctor,” [...]

To Change Or Not To Change…The LOCKS

Submitted by Delaine
Two months into his divorce, Mike returned home early from work one afternoon to a big surprise:  his ex-wife had let herself in and was standing in his living room.   “I needed to come by and pick up a few things,” she said casually.  “I tried calling you earlier.  Didn’t you get my message?  I didn’t think [...]

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