When Your Ex Has Someone New

Submitted by Deborah Moskovitch  “How could I have been replaced so quickly!” my friend Beth wondered. We were discussing her husband’s soon-to-be new wife; she felt shock and disbelief as to how he could find a new “serious” partner so soon after their divorce. Our ex-spouses’ new partners was the focus of discussion one afternoon [...]

The Passive Aggressive Man: He is All About Control

If you were married to him, you know what I’m talking about. If you weren’t be on the look-out because chances are you will cross paths with a passive aggressive man? Who is the passive aggressive man? He is that guy who avoids responsibility and conflict through passivity and withdrawal. He is the “Nice Guy” [...]

“Ex” – An Ugly Little Word?

Submitted by Delaine “EX-husband,”  “EX-wife,”  “The EX.”   The term “ex” is one we all use after divorce, in both our written and oral communications.  It’s something we don’t  give much thought to either – it’s just part of the English language, right?  But have you ever noticed how you feel when say it?   What about when someone ELSE uses it [...]

Links We Love: Ten Signs You are Over Your Ex

During my blog surfing I’m constantly finding content written that our readers could benefit from. Stuff I’d love to grab for this site but since “grabbing” is frowned upon I’ve decided to periodically share what I feel are noteworthy pieces of advice, anecdotes and stories about divorce and relationships. So, here you go, a bit [...]

Another Woman to Lie to and Manipulate

Submitted by Delaine Have you ever observed a woman sinking deeper and deeper into a bad relationship and know that it is not your job to intervene? What if this woman was with your ex-husband? Take Carrie as an example. The relationship she is currently involved in has ‘Destructive’ written all over it –  but [...]

Do you ever wonder, “Is it ME?”

Submitted by Delaine Warning: I’m a little scattered today… I need to ask you something.  Hopefully I can coherently spit out my thoughts here.  So here goes:  Have you ever a conversation with your ex where his position on issues seemed so blatantly wrong, his perception so skewed, that you sat there wondering, “Am I really off [...]

Guidelines For a Smoother Divorce

Submitted by Shirley Cress Dudley 1- Keep contact to a minimum. One phone call a day is excessive, several text messages a day is extremely excessive.  If you have a subject related to the kids- speak briefly and clearly about your expectations.  Emails are better than phone calls, if your issue is not an emergency. [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: The Boyfriend & The Ex

Question: Dear Shelley: I’ve been separated since May 2008 and my divorce should be final soon.  I began dating last year and earlier this year met and fell in love with a wonderful man. We’ve been constant companions ever since.  My soon-to-be-ex has issues with my boyfriend (they have never actually met) and has been [...]

Turning The Kids Against The Ex

Submitted by Shirley Cress Dudley When parents get divorced, sometimes the divorce is less than amiable.  Parents may carry resentment and anger.  Unfortunately, sometimes those negative thoughts are communicated to our children. I regularly hear from stepfamilies that have been told by their children that Mom (or Dad) doesn’t love them anymore or that their [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Unable To Let Go Of Ex

  Dear Shelley,   Why is it that I just can’t seem to let go of my ex-husband?  I literally stress myself out about it. Especially now that I know that he’s happy and engaged. Am I ever going to be happy? We recently got divorced in May of this year.   Rachel   Dear Rachel, [...]

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