Ladies, how do you reply to married men on dating sites?

Submitted by Delaine
Oh, the wild and wacky world of e-dating.  You’d think that by now, I’d be used to the insanity of it having been on and off sites for almost three years.  But THIS message, just in,  STILL caught me off guard:
Hi gorgeous!  You are one fine looking lady, phew! lol.  Where do you want [...]

Can Infidelity Save The Modern Marriage?

Submitted by Delaine
Can cheating on your spouse end up saving your marriage? According to Noel Biderman in his new book, Cheaters Proper, How Infidelity Will Save The Modern Marriage, the answer, believe it or not, is yes.
Who is this Noel Biderman?  This native Torontonian is the CEO and founder of  The Ashley Madison Agency, an online dating service that helps married men [...]

Dating After Divorce: An Indecent, Freaky Or Attractive Proposition?

Submitted by Delaine
So a woman I know received a proposition this week from a man online.  We’re still trying to figure out if we think it’s indecent.  Is it different?  Yes.  Freaky?  Borderline.  Is she considering it?  Hmmmm…kind of.
First I should mention, she’s met him in person already.  He apparently seemed totally normal.  He even seemed [...]

Do Online Predators Go After Single Moms?

 It was my greatest fear when I began online dating: that a child predator would feign interest in me in order to get to my kids.  And today, though I’m much more comfortable with this medium, AND, I’ve still never introduced a man to my children, it’s always at the back of my mind.
According to [...]

The Best Time to Meet an Online Date:A question from a newly-separated woman

Submitted by Delaine
Yesterday, I received a letter from a newly-separated woman who’d recently signed up on a dating site.  She wrote: 
 
 “I read your article that said you don’t spend a lot of time talking to prospective dates on the phone or IM because you find it sets up false expectations.   My concern is that I’m going [...]

Internet Dating:Can talking a lot via phone or IM wreck the in-person meeting?

Submitted by Delaine
A friend of mine recently asked me this question, and I’m curious as to what you think: If you talk to a prospective date a lot by phone or IM, can it spoil the in-person meeting?
 
My personal opinion?  Yes, it can.
 
Now don’t get me wrong – I always pre-screen a man once or twice by phone or through Instant Messenger [...]

Did he just stare at the waitress’ butt?

 Submitted by Delaine
When I’m out on a first date with a man, I pay attention to how he treats the server.  I notice:
 
Is he friendly?
 

Does he use good manners?
 
And, if the server is grumpy, how does he deal with it?

I do this to assess how respectful he is of different people, and to gage what [...]

“Why’s a hot babe like you still on here?”

Over the past couple of months, men from the dating site, Lavalife, have started asking me the above question. The question comes in various renditions, from a simple “STILL on here, eh?” to “I can’t believe you still haven’t been snatched up!”

Time and time again though, my reaction has been the same: to [...]