Under The Scrutiny Of Married Women

Submitted by Delaine
Tara looks amazing at age 40.  Having recently become a triathlete and dedicated herself to an intense training regime,  she has a figure – and a muscle/fat ratio -  most of us would give our eye-teeth  for.
But Tara is also divorced.  And just because of the ’D’ label, she has had to deal with something most divorced women [...]

The Value of a Smart, Knowledgeable, No BS Girlfriend During Divorce

Submitted by Delaine
Smart.  Knowledgeable.  A ‘no bullshit’ kind of woman.  This is the kind of girlfriend/ e-friend I think every divorcing woman needs to have in her corner during her divorce.
I’m not saying it’s the only kind of friend we need.  There are those whose shoulders we cry on, those who provide spiritual insight, those who make us laugh, and so on.
But divorce oftentimes [...]

The Friendship Equation: Never Discount the Value of Girlfriends During and After Divorce

Submitted by: Big Little Wolf
Can family help when you’re going through divorce? You bet. But when it comes to this particular bumpy road and the months that follow, don’t discount the importance of friends.
Don’t get me wrong – family is fantastic – and the more supportive they are, the better. Have kids? You’re all the [...]

Girlfriends, Let’s Talk About Sex!

Submitted by Delaine
This past weekend I got together with a few of my closest girlfriends for our annual Christmas dinner (no men allowed!).  These are women I’ve known for more than a decade – some married, some still single, some divorced.
But as is commonly the case with thirty/forty-something female friends, it was just a matter of time until the topic of sex appeared on our dinner [...]

Lunch Ladies Unite! We Are Not All The Same

Submitted by: BigLittleWolf
I’m going to bust a gut, or the laces on my corset. All women are NOT the same! (Look at Lunch Lady – is she your girl next door? Your neighbor’s wife? Yo mama??) Lunch Lady (my heroine)
If I hear one more time – “all women try to change a man” – I’m [...]

A Shocking Confrontation Proves That The ‘Divorcee’ Stereotype Is Alive & Well

Submitted by Delaine
I was standing behind my kids’  elementary school, watching my daughter play on the monkey bars, when a neighbor friend suddenly marched up to me.  “I need to talk to you, Delaine,” she said seriously.
“Sure,” I said concerned; I could tell something was wrong.  “What’s up Lori?”
“My back is up and I’m feeling very territorial,” [...]

Best Friends Forever?

Submitted by guest writer, Irene S. Levine, author of the upcoming book, Best Friends Forever: How to Survive a Breakup with Your Best Friend
“Best Friends Forever.”  Women grow up with a romanticized notion that our close friendships will last forever. In fact, we are often judged by our ability to make and keep friends. But friendships [...]

Friends in Need, Supporting Those We Love

Submitted by: Maya
I have a friend who is really down in the dumps.  It seems to be pretty prevalent these days.
She’s strong, she’s independent, she’s wise and she feels beaten.  Her life has so many dark corners in it right now and she finds some comfort in staying in those dark places where the [...]

Friends & Frenemies…Can You Set Boundaries?

Submitted by: Maya
 
A very special friend of mine, very recently divorced after having too long a wait, is torn about her friends.
That’s the excess that comes from divorce, how badly it hurts everyone else.  The families ~ who do they go to for Christmas?  Can they invite one parent (children negotiable), leaving the other to [...]

What do You Say to a Grieving Friend?

Submitted by: Maya
 
I’m in a unique situation as I grow older with my lovely girl and boy friends around  me.  I’m happy.  Most of them seem to be struggling or preparing for a struggle.  I don’t know what to do about this.
I had the misfortune to lose my brother at the age of 14.  He [...]

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