The Transformational Power of Emotional Pain

Submitted by: Malou
I have been living a life short of a fairy tale until that fateful day last year. A job, a wonderful husband, a delightful daughter, a big house complete with a garden, a whole room dedicated just for my clothes and shoes….I was a princess!! The only thing missing was a dog and [...]

Pathways Carved By Sorrow

Submitted by Delaine
I say without shame that over the past two years since divorcing, I’ve felt lows unlike anything I’ve ever felt before.  It wasn’t just because of experiencing infidelity, though that full-body shock and heartbreak was excruciating.  There were also many other kinds of ‘lows’: feelings of emptiness….restlessness… loneliness.  And of course the big one: FEAR.
Time and time and time again, I [...]

Something Like Marriage

Submitted by: Big Little Wolf
I was never married, though it was something like marriage.
Perhaps I should say that I was married, and he was not. We had documents of our joining, we had a wedding – and it was a happy one. I thought that was a good sign. I remember the way that he [...]

With Time and Distance Comes a Calm Heart

Submitted by: Maya
I caught a glimpse of the ex the other day. We had to be in the same place and cordially stayed on opposite sides of the room. He always keeps his back to me when we are in these situations but I always sit facing him, daring him to look into [...]

You Can’t Rush Your Learning – Even When You’re Convinced You’re Ready

Submitted by Delaine
Over the past year, most of my divorcing friends have found new partners and seemingly established lovely new lives.  And I’ve  wondered:  Why is it taking longer for me? I mean, I crawled and slashed my way out of Rock Bottom, diligently performed my internal housekeeping, and grew and stretched spiritually in so many positive ways.  So why, in [...]

Learning The Art Of Solitude: Living Alone After Divorce

Submitted by: Erica Manfred
Here are some wonderful insights and advice on living alone from Florence Falk, Ph.D., psychotherapist and author of On My Own; The Art of Being a Woman Alone
You were divorced and alone, how did you manage to get through the initial period of intense loneliness?
First you must distinguish aloneness from loneliness.  We [...]

Birthday Tiaras: The Sweetness of Life After Divorce

Submitted by: Maya
It was my birthday yesterday. I don’t know about you but I still get that princess feeling when I wake up and realise that it’s MY day. I polish my mental tiara and walk out into the world, seeing the flowers looking a little brighter, the coffee smells a bit nuttier, the [...]

A Shocking Confrontation Proves That The ‘Divorcee’ Stereotype Is Alive & Well

Submitted by Delaine
I was standing behind my kids’  elementary school, watching my daughter play on the monkey bars, when a neighbor friend suddenly marched up to me.  “I need to talk to you, Delaine,” she said seriously.
“Sure,” I said concerned; I could tell something was wrong.  “What’s up Lori?”
“My back is up and I’m feeling very territorial,” [...]

The Frog & The Scorpion: An Enlightening Fable For Those Divorcing

A Scorpion was travelling about through the world when he happened by a river.  Seeing a Frog close by he said, “Hey Frog, I need to get across this river.  How about if I jump on your back and you carry me across?”
The Frog vehemently shook her head: “NO WAY.  You’re a Scorpion! As soon as [...]

The Meaning of Life: Finding Purpose

Submitted by: Maya
I used to run around and believe that everyone else out there had a purpose, that they were more important than I, that their lives had more meaning. I was happy to be young and footloose and ~ yes, invisible ~ with no real concerns, no heavy burdens, able to skirt the shadows [...]

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