Girlfriend Advice:Stop Comparing Yourself To HER

Submitted by Delaine Recently, I sat with my emotionally devastated friend Maddie who had just discovered her husband was having an affair.   Why?  When?  How?  Now what?  her brain raced to answer, as she felt her family dream falling to the ground in slow motion. But it didn’t take long for her to start doing what most of us women [...]

Living Alone and Becoming “Set in Our Ways” After Divorce

Submitted by Delaine I’ve always believed it’s healthier to stay single for awhile after divorce verses throwing ourselves into another serious relationship; divorce is a huge life transition and requires time to process. But while lunching with some girlfriends this past weekend, Hali, my best friend warned: “I think people have to be careful not [...]

Was Your Divorce A Means To Heal Old Baggage?

Submitted by Divorce Coach Shelley Stile Here’s a fascinating take on divorce that I find more true than not:  We choose our spouses, usually subconsciously, as a means to healing old emotional wounds we have been carrying around our entire life. Our divorce then becomes the wakeup call to clean up that mental baggage we [...]

Do You Know What You Want?

Submitted by: Big Little Wolf Defining Personal and Professional Goads When it comes to resetting professional goals following divorce, we may not want to rock the boat because we’re shaken by the personal changes we’ve been through. But the dynamics of money, logistics, location, kids, and schools may require a careful look at work, and [...]

The Transformational Power of Emotional Pain

Submitted by: Malou I have been living a life short of a fairy tale until that fateful day last year. A job, a wonderful husband, a delightful daughter, a big house complete with a garden, a whole room dedicated just for my clothes and shoes….I was a princess!! The only thing missing was a dog [...]

Birthday Tiaras: The Sweetness of Life After Divorce

Submitted by: Maya It was my birthday yesterday. I don’t know about you but I still get that princess feeling when I wake up and realise that it’s MY day. I polish my mental tiara and walk out into the world, seeing the flowers looking a little brighter, the coffee smells a bit nuttier, the [...]

Dating Can Be As Much Of A Mirror As A Full-On Relationship

Submitted by Delaine My girlfriend’s dating life is VERY busy.  And I salute her for that.  Almost two years out of an emotionally abusive marriage, we concurred that her rushing into a committed relationship would be dangerous: she’d probably end up with a bully again and/or losing herself in another man instead of exploring and discovering her own true colors. The other day, [...]

Coming Out of The Shadows

Submitted by: Maya I KNOW that it happens to more of us than we’d think.  It happens when children are nice and well behaved so they can fade into the shadows.  It happens when children are naughty and don’t want to be caught ~ but doesn’t usually last too long…  It happens to girls who [...]

Older, Wiser and More Beautiful

Submitted by: Maya All last night my vulnerable post left me lying awake.  Unusual for me… Firstly to lie awake ~ secondly to show my vulnerability… I fake it so well most of the time that when I feel weak, I feel like I’m walking in someone else’s moccasins.  Only I know that these same [...]

Sexually Invisible

Submitted by: Anonymous More than a decade of self~enforced celibacy.  From the start it was because I was reluctant to allow a man into my most private spaces.  My love is not up for grabs and I have a tendency to want to love when I make love.  I did not want to risk the [...]

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