It’s Passing Away Now…

I know that after a break-up or a divorce the heart can hurt to such a degree that that is unbearable! You don’t know what is up and what is down, you are just standing there blankly and staring after the departing partner… Then the unfamiliar, strange single hours, days and weeks come. At first [...]

You can’t make me!

You can’t make me get upset, be sad, get angry, feel badly, be hurt, or anything else.  You can’t make me do something if I don’t choose to do it.  You can’t make me say something I’ll regret.  You can’t make me behave poorly, act out, fly off the handle, or storm off.  You can’t [...]

Insanity: Or How Crazy You Feel When Someone Else Defines You

I’m sure you’ve all heard the saying that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over, yet expecting to get a different result.  I always liked that saying because it rang true to me.  So many of us do this, even though it’s illogical. But last night I heard an even [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Is The Ex-Wife Too Close For Comfort?

Question: I am a widow with no children. I have been dating a man for over a year now who has two children (14 and 18). We are in a committed relationship. He has been divorced for 5 years. He and his ex wife continue to get together for holidays, birthdays, family reunions, special occasions [...]

My Divorce Journal: Pressured To Feel Something I Don’t

Last week I was confronted with the question “What are you doing to fix this?”  This week I am looking inside to figure out what I had been avoiding for many years. Then – 12/24/2003 “I have had my share of obstacles in our relationship but somehow I always find a way to crawl out [...]

The Senselessness of Trying to Change Another

“Consider how hard it is to change yourself, and you’ll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.”  (Jacob M. Braude) Most of you are working on personal change –so you are aware of areas you wish to grow in and are actively becoming your best self.  As such, you’ve experienced how [...]

Ask The Experts: Who Do You Take Advice From?

Expertise. That’s what I wanted. To know that I was really good at something, to have it confirmed, and then to use that knowledge to appropriate ends. And in my (now several) careers, I worked – hard – to attain the practical skills and experience as well as the degrees, certifications, and reputation to back [...]

Peaceful Divorce: It Isn’t a “One Size Fits All” Solution to a Problem

Submitted by: Cathy Meyer I recently read an article by Molly Monet over at the Huffington Post Divorce section. Molly has been divorced a couple of years and thinks she holds the secret to a “peaceful divorce.” She has managed to build not only a civil relationship with her ex but they have remained friends. [...]

Are You Google Safe?

Submitted by: Carrie Dahle Can you imagine a world where your ex has access to the things you do and knowledge of your personal experiences? A world where there is no stopping a sociopathic stalker from inserting themselves into your lives? A world of gross misinterpretation and perceived righteousness? I can, because it is the world we are living in today. Everyone [...]

Sexual Frustration: When a Husband Doesn’t Want Sex

Submitted by: Cathy Meyer I read with interest an article by Susan Pease Gadoua over at The Huffington Post about the differences between men and women when it comes to working through conflict or distance in a relationship. I get a wee bit frustrated when I read articles filled with assumptions written by experts. When [...]

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