It “Hurts so Good:” Are You Addicted to Drama?

Submitted by: Elise Fee Believe it or not, feeling unhappy and like you’re a victim is a way of feeling alive. It may be a negative emotion, but at least you’re feeling something. And if you get in the habit of this, it becomes a way of being….always finding something to be upset about, hurt [...]

The Crazy Making Ex: Granddaddy Steps Up To The Plate!

Submitted by: Cathy I read a post by a divorced father today. It made me happy and sad all at the same time. Happy for this father’s son, sad for my sons. Happy because there are children in this world with fathers who know how to father. Go check it out, They Spread Their Wings [...]

The Crazy Making Ex: Sharing In-Laws With an Outlaw

Submitted by: Cathy My first real exposure to my in-laws came when they flew to Germany to visit. It was to be a short, two week visit but turned into the month of emotional upheavals and passive aggressive venom. The kind of venom that covertly determines the way problems are dealt with and conflict is [...]

Seven Under-Appreciated Benefits of Divorce

Submitted by: Cathy If you’ve been through a divorce, you know the pain of divorce. Did you know or have you yet discovered the benefits though? I know it is hard to believe that divorce has its benefits, especially if you are someone who didn’t want a divorce. Just ask any woman who has gone [...]

Divorce Recovery: Moving on And Letting Go

Submitted by: Shelley Stile The clients who come to me for help in letting go and moving on after their divorce discover that acceptance, a mandatory step in divorce recovery, comes in two stages. First we work to be in acceptance of the end of our marriage and then we move on to accept what [...]

Open Letter to the New Wife: Take Him, He’s All Yours!

Submitted by: Lee Block He’s all yours and good luck with that!  Maybe he will treat you better.  Perhaps he will love you more.  Oh, you have your own children?  Maybe he will be a better step-parent than he is a father.  Should I tell you some things or let you find out about them [...]

The Crazy Making Ex: It’s All About Him and You’d Best Show Your Appreciation!

Submitted by: Cathy It wasn’t long after I married my ex that I began to fill a wee bit uncomfortable in my own skin. I walked about feeling cranky, anxious, angry, depressed and ready to either scream or cry at the drop of a hat. I no longer knew myself, had lost touch with that [...]

Sexless Marriage: Are You Turning Yourself Inside Out Trying to Get His Interest?

I became a slut for my ex. I was open to anything he wanted to do sexually. I guess it’s good for me that there wasn’t much he was interested in sexually…least of all me. I was so desperate for a husband who wanted sex with me I shutter when I think of how vulnerable [...]

If You Marry Young, Like I Did, How Are You Supposed to Know What’s Right For You?

Submitted by: Cougel at “The Cougel Chronicles: Tales of a Jewish Cougar” The word “bashert” is a word I’ve heard for as long as I can remember. It’s Yiddish for “pre-destined” (i.e. the person we are intended to marry). I believe that having this goal or fantasy implanted in a person at a young age [...]

Resentment: Molten Lava In One’s Bones

Submitted by Delaine Moore At three and a half years into my divorce, I no longer feel like I’m mourning my marriage.  The grief, the fear, the heartache of betrayal  - they lie behind me now, serving as sources of strength and wisdom, not pain.  But getting over my marriage is one thing, getting over my ex’s behavior during [...]

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