It “Hurts so Good:” Are You Addicted to Drama?

Submitted by: Elise Fee Believe it or not, feeling unhappy and like you’re a victim is a way of feeling alive. It may be a negative emotion, but at least you’re feeling something. And if you get in the habit of this, it becomes a way of being….always finding something to be upset about, hurt [...]

There’s Gotta be a Pony Around Here Somewhere!!

Submitted by: Elise Fee …there’s gotta be a pony around here somewhere!! I certainly can’t take credit for this wise, yet humorous saying…but I do enjoy how it speaks directly to the matter. When things appear to be horrible, unbearable, challenging and dark, we have a hard time remembering that there is a pony (a [...]

Dreams, The Male Chest and Hope

Submitted by: Wanda I miss it…the male chest.  That’s right.  You know the ones I’m talking about – the hard, broad shouldered big at the top smaller at the bottom kind. I dreamed that I was in my kitchen with this huge pile of dishes to wash and just as I dipped my hands into [...]

The Crazy Making Ex: Sharing In-Laws With an Outlaw

Submitted by: Cathy My first real exposure to my in-laws came when they flew to Germany to visit. It was to be a short, two week visit but turned into the month of emotional upheavals and passive aggressive venom. The kind of venom that covertly determines the way problems are dealt with and conflict is [...]

Divorce Recovery: Moving on And Letting Go

Submitted by: Shelley Stile The clients who come to me for help in letting go and moving on after their divorce discover that acceptance, a mandatory step in divorce recovery, comes in two stages. First we work to be in acceptance of the end of our marriage and then we move on to accept what [...]

Painted Pink Toenails: Today I Breathe Again!

Submitted by: Robin Dake I painted my toenails last week. At one time, I kept red polish on my toes – bright red, happy red. I had tried other colors, but kept coming back to red. At one time, I sparkled. But somehow, in this last year, as my 18-year marriage crumbled, cleaved, then ended, [...]

Sexless Marriage: Are You Turning Yourself Inside Out Trying to Get His Interest?

I became a slut for my ex. I was open to anything he wanted to do sexually. I guess it’s good for me that there wasn’t much he was interested in sexually…least of all me. I was so desperate for a husband who wanted sex with me I shutter when I think of how vulnerable [...]

If You Marry Young, Like I Did, How Are You Supposed to Know What’s Right For You?

Submitted by: Cougel at “The Cougel Chronicles: Tales of a Jewish Cougar” The word “bashert” is a word I’ve heard for as long as I can remember. It’s Yiddish for “pre-destined” (i.e. the person we are intended to marry). I believe that having this goal or fantasy implanted in a person at a young age [...]

Letter to my Exes: Becoming Clearer About What I Do Want in a Relationship

Submitted by: Sydney Tyler Thomas Sometimes it just doesn’t pay to share good news. I have a friend who insists on setting me up each time we get together. I made the mistake once of telling her about how painfully my last relationship ended and in doing so, I opened a door that I haven’t [...]

“Ex” – An Ugly Little Word?

Submitted by Delaine “EX-husband,”  “EX-wife,”  “The EX.”   The term “ex” is one we all use after divorce, in both our written and oral communications.  It’s something we don’t  give much thought to either – it’s just part of the English language, right?  But have you ever noticed how you feel when say it?   What about when someone ELSE uses it [...]

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