Ask The Divorce Coach: Is The Ex-Wife Too Close For Comfort?

Question: I am a widow with no children. I have been dating a man for over a year now who has two children (14 and 18). We are in a committed relationship. He has been divorced for 5 years. He and his ex wife continue to get together for holidays, birthdays, family reunions, special occasions [...]

My Divorce Journal: Pressured To Feel Something I Don’t

Last week I was confronted with the question “What are you doing to fix this?”  This week I am looking inside to figure out what I had been avoiding for many years. Then – 12/24/2003 “I have had my share of obstacles in our relationship but somehow I always find a way to crawl out [...]

My Divorce Journal: Using His Alcoholism Against Me!

Last week I was contemplating an eye opening question previously posed by our marriage counselor, this week I’m defensive about an eye opening question posed by my husband Then – 12/23/2003 “Last night was quite interesting.  When ‘Carl’ came home from his AA meeting he was in a bad mood.  It appears that some people [...]

The Senselessness of Trying to Change Another

“Consider how hard it is to change yourself, and you’ll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.”  (Jacob M. Braude) Most of you are working on personal change –so you are aware of areas you wish to grow in and are actively becoming your best self.  As such, you’ve experienced how [...]

My Divorce Journal Then and Now: What Would You Miss if He Weren’t Around?

Then 12/11/2003 “The big topic that came up during our argument was that he feels I don’t even want to be in a relationship.  He feels that when he’s recovered I don’t even want to stay around; he thinks I’ve already made up my mind on the subject and that nothing he does to get [...]

Ask The Experts: Who Do You Take Advice From?

Expertise. That’s what I wanted. To know that I was really good at something, to have it confirmed, and then to use that knowledge to appropriate ends. And in my (now several) careers, I worked – hard – to attain the practical skills and experience as well as the degrees, certifications, and reputation to back [...]

Peaceful Divorce: It Isn’t a “One Size Fits All” Solution to a Problem

Submitted by: Cathy Meyer I recently read an article by Molly Monet over at the Huffington Post Divorce section. Molly has been divorced a couple of years and thinks she holds the secret to a “peaceful divorce.” She has managed to build not only a civil relationship with her ex but they have remained friends. [...]

Are You Google Safe?

Submitted by: Carrie Dahle Can you imagine a world where your ex has access to the things you do and knowledge of your personal experiences? A world where there is no stopping a sociopathic stalker from inserting themselves into your lives? A world of gross misinterpretation and perceived righteousness? I can, because it is the world we are living in today. Everyone [...]

Sexual Frustration: When a Husband Doesn’t Want Sex

Submitted by: Cathy Meyer I read with interest an article by Susan Pease Gadoua over at The Huffington Post about the differences between men and women when it comes to working through conflict or distance in a relationship. I get a wee bit frustrated when I read articles filled with assumptions written by experts. When [...]

It “Hurts so Good:” Are You Addicted to Drama?

Submitted by: Elise Fee Believe it or not, feeling unhappy and like you’re a victim is a way of feeling alive. It may be a negative emotion, but at least you’re feeling something. And if you get in the habit of this, it becomes a way of being….always finding something to be upset about, hurt [...]

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