Forgiving Yourself: Letting Go of Negative Self-Talk

Submitted by: Erica Manfred If you’re overwhelmed with self-blame here’s a great quote from Bonnie Russell, the founder of www.FamilyLawCourts.com. She says: I’ve found women, especially therapists and other helping professionals, have trouble forgiving themselves.  They constantly berate themselves with:   “I should have seen it, known it, realized it,”  followed by “I wasted (fill in [...]

It “Hurts so Good:” Are You Addicted to Drama?

Submitted by: Elise Fee Believe it or not, feeling unhappy and like you’re a victim is a way of feeling alive. It may be a negative emotion, but at least you’re feeling something. And if you get in the habit of this, it becomes a way of being….always finding something to be upset about, hurt [...]

Five Relationship Mistakes, Are You Paying Attention to Those Red Flags?

Someone asked me for this list so I started thinking about why relationships fail.   If you’re divorced and looking, keep in mind that it’s easier to avoid a bad relationship than get out of it.  Keep your eyes wide open when you meet someone and don’t ignore those red flags.  I look back on my [...]

That Ever Illusive Intimate Connection

Submitted by: Erica Manfred Intimate connection = Soul Mate The idea of soul mates wasn’t much in vogue when I was doing personals dating back in the 70s. Now it has become a cliché, and like all clichés has just about lost its meaning. My ex-therapist Jim, who is one of the wisest people I’ve [...]

Navigating and Moving on After Divorce: Tips for The Woman Over 40

Submitted by: Erica Manfred I’m submitting this list to a local paper so I thought I’d give my blog readers the benefit of some great advice.  Hope some of this helps you. 1. Don’t be afraid to fight for alimony for life if you’ve been married for more than fifteen years and you’re over 55. Alimony these [...]

Understanding the Pain and Rejection of Infidelity

Submitted by: Erica Manfred Women who have been left for another woman describe the experience in extreme terms:  Stella, sixty-two, whose husband left her for someone else after thirty-three years of marriage was typical:  “ I cried every day for two months.  I still cry two years later.  And railed and screamed in the car [...]

Ask the Divorce Doctor: The Other Woman Was a Prostitute!

Get answers to your divorce questions from author Erica Manfred. Editor’s Note: Erica Manfred, author of He’s History, You’re Not: Surviving Divorce After 40, is answering your questions about divorce — from how to deal with betrayal, to surviving the first year, to dating again, to finding a new career. Our “Divorce Doctor” looks forward [...]

Ask The Divorce Doctor: When the Ex Isn’t Paying

Editor’s Note: Erica Manfred, author of He’s History, You’re Not: Surviving Divorce After 40, writes a weekly column at www.wowowow.com. She answers reader questions about divorce, everything from how to deal with betrayal, to surviving the first year, to dating again, to finding a new career. If you have a question for the “Divorce Doctor,” [...]

Ask the Divorce Doctor: Why Did he Leave me After 30 Years?

Editor’s Note: Erica Manfred, author of He’s History, You’re Not: Surviving Divorce After 40, writes a weekly column at www.wowowow.com. She answers reader questions about divorce, everything from how to deal with betrayal, to surviving the first year, to dating again, to finding a new career. If you have a question for the “Divorce Doctor,” [...]

Learning The Art Of Solitude: Living Alone After Divorce

Submitted by: Erica Manfred Here are some wonderful insights and advice on living alone from Florence Falk, Ph.D., psychotherapist and author of On My Own; The Art of Being a Woman Alone You were divorced and alone, how did you manage to get through the initial period of intense loneliness? First you must distinguish aloneness [...]

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