Ask the Divorce Doctor: The Other Woman Was a Prostitute!

Get answers to your divorce questions from author Erica Manfred.
Editor’s Note: Erica Manfred, author of He’s History, You’re Not: Surviving Divorce After 40, is answering your questions about divorce — from how to deal with betrayal, to surviving the first year, to dating again, to finding a new career. Our “Divorce Doctor” looks forward to [...]

Ask The Divorce Doctor: When the Ex Isn’t Paying

Editor’s Note: Erica Manfred, author of He’s History, You’re Not: Surviving Divorce After 40, writes a weekly column at www.wowowow.com.
She answers reader questions about divorce, everything from how to deal with betrayal, to surviving the first year, to dating again, to finding a new career. If you have a question for the “Divorce Doctor,” [...]

Ask the Divorce Doctor: Why Did he Leave me After 30 Years?

Editor’s Note: Erica Manfred, author of He’s History, You’re Not: Surviving Divorce After 40, writes a weekly column at www.wowowow.com.
She answers reader questions about divorce, everything from how to deal with betrayal, to surviving the first year, to dating again, to finding a new career. If you have a question for the “Divorce Doctor,” [...]

Understanding the Pain and Rejection of Infidelity

Submitted by: Erica Manfred
Women who have been left for another woman describe the experience in extreme terms:  Stella, sixty-two, whose husband left her for someone else after thirty-three years of marriage was typical:  “ I cried every day for two months.  I still cry two years later.  And railed and screamed in the car and [...]

Learning The Art Of Solitude: Living Alone After Divorce

Submitted by: Erica Manfred
Here are some wonderful insights and advice on living alone from Florence Falk, Ph.D., psychotherapist and author of On My Own; The Art of Being a Woman Alone
You were divorced and alone, how did you manage to get through the initial period of intense loneliness?
First you must distinguish aloneness from loneliness.  We [...]

That Ever Illusive Intimate Connection

Submitted by: Erica Manfred
Intimate connection = Soul Mate
The idea of soul mates wasn’t much in vogue when I was doing personals dating back in the 70s. Now it has become a cliché, and like all clichés has just about lost its meaning.
My ex-therapist Jim, who is one of the wisest people I’ve ever known, used [...]

Forgiving Yourself

Submitted by: Erica Manfred
If you’re overwhelmed with self-blame here’s a great quote from Bonnie Russell, the founder of www.FamilyLawCourts.com.
She says:
I’ve found women, especially therapists and other helping professionals,, have trouble forgiving themselves.  They constantly berate themselves with:   “I should have seen it, known it, realized it,”  followed by “I wasted (fill in the blank)  years.”

I [...]

Self-Help: Helpful to Some, Offensive to Others

Submitted by: Erica Manfred
My book, He’s History; You’re Not: Surviving Divorce After Forty, is a very candid account of my marriage and how it ended. An Amazon reader gave me a review which took issue with my telling the truth about my husband “without providing him a forum to defend himself” because she thought that [...]

The Wheel of Karma or What Goes Around Comes Around

Submitted By: Erica Manfred
 I have not only been the betrayed wife but the other woman.  I know how it feels to be in both positions.  No matter what they say, being the other woman was a hell of a lot easier.  Or maybe I was just younger then. 
 In college my boyfriend was married AND an [...]

LONELY IS NOT A FOUR-LETTER WORD

Submitted by Erica
Last week I went for the second time this summer to a spiritual retreat in Lily Dale, New York.  Lily Dale is a rather unique spot.     It’s a tiny little village in western New York, near Buffalo, with small gingerbread Victorian and clapboard cottages all crowded together, most with luxuriant gardens.
Lily Dale [...]

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