Ask The Divorce Coach: No Family Support

Question: Dear Shelley, I am going through a divorce after suffering abuse for two and a half years: emotional, verbal, and physical. I turned to my parents to let me live with them in my old bedroom until my divorce gets sorted and they agreed. I am independent, have no children, and I financially help [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Staying Married Only Because of Money

Question: Dear Shelley, I am in a nine-year marriage marriage and there is no love left between us.  All we do is argue, we can’t communicate, there is no intimacy whatsoever, and I am currently unemployed. I don’t know how I can support myself if I divorce him.  There are no jobs in my city. It [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Bouts of Anger Still Remain

Question: Dear Shelley, I have been divorced for one year and I am getting better –  I work, meditate, exercise, and am friends with my ex-husband.  But sometimes I feel very angry at him.  For example: I couldn’t afford to keep our family home, and when I went looking for a new apartment or house [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Trying To Parent With A Broken Heart

Question: Dear Shelley: I want to know what steps I should take to get over my anger and hurt so I can be a normal mom again to my two kids. I was married for nine years and found out shortly after our eighth wedding anniversary that he was cheating.  My anger lies in the [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Broke & Powerless From Legal Fees

Question: Dear Shelley: I am really struggling.  I was married for almost ten years and have two children.   My husband and I have been to court three times already.  At the last hearing, the judge asked both attorneys if all issues were resolved and both said yes – but my ex and his attorney have [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: He had an affair with my best friend & refuses to divorce me

Question: Dear Shelley: Five years ago my husband started an affair with my very best friend in the whole world.  My husband felt neglected by me which, in a sense, was true – with menopause and other issues I was going through, I sort of ended up in this black hole. During this time, he [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach – Still Stuck Six Years Later

Question: Dear Shelley, I was married for 25 years, have been separated for six years, and now divorced for three years. I recently found out that my ex has a girlfriend, goes to her place at night, of course is having sex with her, and it is making me crazy. I cry all the time and am depressed. [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: I’d do ANYTHING to bring him back…

Question: Hi Shelley, About 2 1/2 years ago my husband of 16 years told me he didn’t love me anymore.  I immediately started vomiting and became hysterical. I was a stay-at-home mom to three kids, had worshiped the ground he walked on, and thought he was my best friend. I later found out that he [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Afraid To Trust

Question: Dear Shelley, I’ve been divorced for a year and on my own for two, after 16 years of marriage.  I am afraid to leave my ‘safe harbor’ of my circle of family.  I continue to work at my father’s  place of employment because it is familiar and comfortable – but it barely provides enough [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Flashbacks

  Question: Dear Shelley, How do I stop the constant flashbacks?  Flashbacks include him being with 2 girlfriends and extreme emotional abuse.  I’m in therapy, but would like your input. Cathy Answer: Dear Cathy, How do u feel when your mind chatter speaks up? Bad. Your mind chatter is your wounded ego and it is [...]

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