Divorce Recovery: Beware Expectations
January 7, 2011 by Cathy Meyer
Filed under Coping, Editor's Picks, Grief & Anger, Healing, shellystile
Submitted by Divorce Coach Shelley Stile In a nutshell, expectations are premeditated resentments and disappointments. They are self-sabotaging beliefs we hold that literally set us up to feel bad and keep us stuck in the pain of our divorce. They are in direct conflict with how the world actually works and are based on the [...]
Ask The Divorce Coach:My wife abused me yet I can’t let go
November 14, 2010 by Cathy Meyer
Filed under Coping, Domestic Abuse, shellystile
Question: Hi Shelley, My wife and I have separated. I don’t understand why I’m finding it so difficult to let go of the marriage cause she was both physically and emotionally abusive towards me. Why do I keep making excuses for her? Why do I blame myself for that abuse? I have met someone really [...]
30 Years Ago Would YOU Have Had The Courage To Divorce?
June 7, 2010 by Cathy Meyer
Filed under Editor's Picks, NoMore, Society & The Divorcee
Submitted by Delaine In the year 2000, my mom and Dad got divorced. He left my then 57-year-old mom for another woman. But this wasn’t the first time he’d cheated – his philanderings had begun back in the 70s. “Why didn’t leave him way back then?” I recently asked my mom. “Don’t you wish you [...]
Recovering from Divorce: Honoring the Truth
April 20, 2010 by Cathy Meyer
Filed under Coping, Healing
Submitted by Divorce Coach Shelley Stile Do you remember the old adage that states there’s your side, there’s my side and then there’s the truth? If we were totally honest with ourselves, we too could see the truth of any situation. Once we accept that truth, we have the new found freedom to gain clarity, [...]
