“I Grew Balls”: How One Wife Confronted The ‘Other Woman’ To Find The Truth

Submitted by Delaine It wasn’t until ‘she’ phoned in the middle of the night that Pam became suspicious.  The woman was obviously drunk, her voice a string of slurs.  And when Pam asked, “Who is this?”, all she got heard was “(Giggles) Just a friend…(click).” The next day, Pam confronted her husband.  Completely taken off guard, he insisted [...]

Hello God? It’s Me, Delaine. Can You PLEASE Somehow End This Date?

Submitted by Delaine His comments caught me totally off guard: We were out on our second date – me and this handsome, charming, 42-year-old divorced businessman. The Indian food we’d eaten was excellent, as was the conversation we’d shared: satisfying…delicious…with just enough ‘spice.’  And as we sat there finishing up the last drops of our red wine, I couldn’t help but [...]

Legal Action Can Help Mold A Child-Like Ex Into A Better Man

Submitted by Delaine Sometimes dealing with an ex can feel like you’re dealing with a child:  you give and give and give….you kindly explain the same thing over and over and over again …yet still they don’t ‘get it.’ And though it’s sad to say - and painful to have to do - sometimes we have to [...]

Relationships:The Huge Missing Piece I FINALLY Found

Submitted by Delaine I dare say I’ve had an epiphany in the relationship department; a giant revelation around what I ultimately need.  And though it may seem an obvious component to you, I’m afraid  it’s something I’ve never had before.  And I can’t help but grin cause it came via a most unusual source. Do you remember my Handsome Good [...]

The Olympics: A Call Beyond Our Boxed-In, Stressed-Out Lives

Have you caught any of the Winter Olympics since they started?  Or are you too preoccupied with messy divorce matters?  Cause I think we all have something to gain and learn by tuning into these Games - not just by sharing in the triumphs and failures of our athletes, but by temporarily merging with something that is far bigger than ourselves and our troubled lives. [...]

To Change Or Not To Change…The LOCKS

Submitted by Delaine Two months into his divorce, Mike returned home early from work one afternoon to a big surprise:  his ex-wife had let herself in and was standing in his living room.   “I needed to come by and pick up a few things,” she said casually.  “I tried calling you earlier.  Didn’t you get my message?  I didn’t [...]

Serving It Up Cold To That Lying, Cheating Bastard

Submitted by Delaine When you found out your spouse was cheating, were you obsessed with thoughts of revenge?  Throwing all his clothes in a heap on the lawn…slashing his tires…or forwarding copies of his cyber sex sessions to his entire address book?   Maybe your fantasies were more devious – perhaps they involved some Superglue and the bathroom [...]

Escaping Divorce With “Edward”

Submitted by Delaine Since separating almost three years ago, my leisurely reading has been very limited and very serious. We’re talking non-fiction and self-help only.   This was for a couple of reasons.  First,  the idea of anything make-believe or romantic repulsed me (I guess experiencing infidelity can have that effect).  Secondly, I had work to do – not only [...]

Black Clothes Suck The Energy Out Of Your Face

Like most women, I’m guilty of it too – that is, I often wear black clothes simply because they’re slimming.  And when we feel slimmer, we often feel better about ourselves, right? But what if wearing black next to our faces makes our eyes look dull and our skin blotchy and shadowy?   In other words, what if black on most of us, [...]

Redo and Reclaim The Master Bedroom – Why & How

Submitted by Delaine Within months of separating from my ex two years ago, I suddenly felt an incredible need to redecorate the master bedroom.   I’m not sure if I did it more as a mental distraction at the time, or if some unconscious part of me knew I needed  to ‘get him out of there” and make [...]

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