The Malignant Divorce: Children Rarely Benefit From An Angry Parent

“No food, no electricity, no childcare, no clothing, no heat and the children remembering Daddy throwing Mommy to the ground are all small things compared to the lying, promiscuity and adultery.” Cases like these are the cancer of divorce. Sometimes I think that the work of experts on divorce is really akin to oncologists who [...]

Children and Divorce: How Much Truth is Too Much Truth?

Truth is a great value, but it is not the only value by which we live. When it comes to kids, their health and well-being trumps everything else. We bring them into the world fresh and innocent. If you’re going through a divorce, your children were probably born into an intact family. This is what [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Is The Ex-Wife Too Close For Comfort?

Question: I am a widow with no children. I have been dating a man for over a year now who has two children (14 and 18). We are in a committed relationship. He has been divorced for 5 years. He and his ex wife continue to get together for holidays, birthdays, family reunions, special occasions [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Should Dad Have Visitation For Easter?

Submitted by: Cathy Meyer Question: I am divorced and my ex-husband and I have a daughter. I have been remarried for 3 years. My husband is also divorced but without any children of his own. When divorce papers were drawn it stated that I have full custody with my ex having once a month weekend [...]

Considering Divorce? Will Your Children Get a Vote?

Submitted by: Cathy Meyer A friend sent me a handout from Oregon about the effects of divorce on children. If you’ve been through a divorce I’m sure you’ve taken the time to read articles about children and divorce in an attempt to help you help your child adjust. We put a lot of thought and [...]

The Crazy Making Ex: Granddaddy Steps Up To The Plate!

Submitted by: Cathy I read a post by a divorced father today. It made me happy and sad all at the same time. Happy for this father’s son, sad for my sons. Happy because there are children in this world with fathers who know how to father. Go check it out, They Spread Their Wings [...]

Reader Question: First Post-Divorce Christmas

Submitted by: Cathy Meyer My husband and I divorced several months ago after eleven years of marriage. He’s living in a neighboring town and we share custody of our children, ages nine and seven. It was a bitter divorce and our kids heard far too much anger towards the end. My question is what to [...]

Adversarial Divorce Attorneys: The Bunny Cage Case

Submitted by: Belinda Rachman I don’t’ remember when or how I found The Bunny Cage blog, but upon seeing the provocative photography of this self-styled Cindy Sherman of Wyoming, I started following Sara LeeAnn Banevedes. It was hard to believe someone so hip was living in a small town writing such interesting stories and taking [...]

Divorce: Respecting The Intergenerational Boundary

Submitted by: Mark Banschick M.D. There is a boundary between generations which is called the Intergenerational Boundary. This is a fundamental truism that I operate on when I see a family. Parents need to know what to share with their children and what they should keep to themselves. Oftentimes after a divorce, or even after [...]

A Child’s Bill of Rights

Submitted by: Mark Banschick M.D. Some divorced people feel so betrayed or hurt by their ex-spouse that they cannot get over their anger. They may want to retaliate and punish their ex-spouse. These attempts to punish don’t accomplish much, except perhaps making the angry spouse feel good for a brief moment. Kids deserve a “Bill [...]

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