Ask the Divorce Doctor: The Other Woman Was a Prostitute!

Get answers to your divorce questions from author Erica Manfred.
Editor’s Note: Erica Manfred, author of He’s History, You’re Not: Surviving Divorce After 40, is answering your questions about divorce — from how to deal with betrayal, to surviving the first year, to dating again, to finding a new career. Our “Divorce Doctor” looks forward to [...]

Ask The Divorce Doctor: When the Ex Isn’t Paying

Editor’s Note: Erica Manfred, author of He’s History, You’re Not: Surviving Divorce After 40, writes a weekly column at www.wowowow.com.
She answers reader questions about divorce, everything from how to deal with betrayal, to surviving the first year, to dating again, to finding a new career. If you have a question for the “Divorce Doctor,” [...]

Ask the Divorce Doctor: Why Did he Leave me After 30 Years?

Editor’s Note: Erica Manfred, author of He’s History, You’re Not: Surviving Divorce After 40, writes a weekly column at www.wowowow.com.
She answers reader questions about divorce, everything from how to deal with betrayal, to surviving the first year, to dating again, to finding a new career. If you have a question for the “Divorce Doctor,” [...]

Tiger Woods “R” Us

Submitted by: Erica Manfred
I’ve been wondering why the Tiger Woods thing is such a big deal in the media. Why do people care about Tiger’s infidelities? After all, it seems to me that infidelity is treated as no big deal in this country. Men cheat every day, get caught, get divorced, leave their kids, drag [...]

Lipstick on his Collar, Hatred in his Heart

Submitted by: Erica Manfred
Have you been wondering why the man who cheated on you is also so furious with you?  Where does he get off blaming you when he was the one who cheated?   When my ex told me he was leaving I kept asking him why he was so angry with me, what did [...]

Understanding the Pain and Rejection of Infidelity

Submitted by: Erica Manfred
Women who have been left for another woman describe the experience in extreme terms:  Stella, sixty-two, whose husband left her for someone else after thirty-three years of marriage was typical:  “ I cried every day for two months.  I still cry two years later.  And railed and screamed in the car and [...]

Learning The Art Of Solitude: Living Alone After Divorce

Submitted by: Erica Manfred
Here are some wonderful insights and advice on living alone from Florence Falk, Ph.D., psychotherapist and author of On My Own; The Art of Being a Woman Alone
You were divorced and alone, how did you manage to get through the initial period of intense loneliness?
First you must distinguish aloneness from loneliness.  We [...]

Forgiving Yourself

Submitted by: Erica Manfred
If you’re overwhelmed with self-blame here’s a great quote from Bonnie Russell, the founder of www.FamilyLawCourts.com.
She says:
I’ve found women, especially therapists and other helping professionals,, have trouble forgiving themselves.  They constantly berate themselves with:   “I should have seen it, known it, realized it,”  followed by “I wasted (fill in the blank)  years.”

I [...]

Self-Help: Helpful to Some, Offensive to Others

Submitted by: Erica Manfred
My book, He’s History; You’re Not: Surviving Divorce After Forty, is a very candid account of my marriage and how it ended. An Amazon reader gave me a review which took issue with my telling the truth about my husband “without providing him a forum to defend himself” because she thought that [...]

LONELY IS NOT A FOUR-LETTER WORD

Submitted by Erica
Last week I went for the second time this summer to a spiritual retreat in Lily Dale, New York.  Lily Dale is a rather unique spot.     It’s a tiny little village in western New York, near Buffalo, with small gingerbread Victorian and clapboard cottages all crowded together, most with luxuriant gardens.
Lily Dale [...]

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