Ask The Divorce Coach: My Ex Is Constantly Texting Me!

Question: Dear Shelley: I’m newly divorced, three and a half months.  He has custody of our three young sons, ages 5, 4 and 3. I am working my way through this divorce, healing from past abuse issues that have come up, trying to maintain my sobriety as well as establish boundaries around our co-parenting. He [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: “I Didn’t See It Coming”

Question: Dear Shelley: After 24 years of marriage, my husband moved out last week, told me he wants to be free and NEVER loved me.  My friends are ignoring me and my children are on his side.  I work full time and have not told anyone at my job yet.  I am not sleeping well [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: “I Allowed His Verbal Abuse”

Question: Dear Shelley: I got divorced on September 11, 2009.   I allowed this man to verbally abuse me throughout our marriage.  Moreover, he didn’t even talk to my daughter and grandchildren for 10 years.  I couldn’t wash his clothes good enough, wash dishes good enough, nor cook right.  I found out too late he treated [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: He had an affair with my best friend & refuses to divorce me

Question: Dear Shelley: Five years ago my husband started an affair with my very best friend in the whole world.  My husband felt neglected by me which, in a sense, was true – with menopause and other issues I was going through, I sort of ended up in this black hole. During this time, he [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Unable To Let Go Of Ex

  Dear Shelley,   Why is it that I just can’t seem to let go of my ex-husband?  I literally stress myself out about it. Especially now that I know that he’s happy and engaged. Am I ever going to be happy? We recently got divorced in May of this year.   Rachel   Dear Rachel, [...]