Friend or Foe? How Loved Ones Can Hold Us Back During Divorce

Submitted by: Tara Eisenhard I was lucky to have the support of my friends and family when I went through my divorce.  While I’m grateful, I also recognize how those closest to us can hold us back and prevent healthy closure. Upon hearing the news of my cheating husband and pending separation, a co-worker advised, “You’ll [...]

Grateful For His Betrayal!

Submitted by: Tara Eisenhard I never believed my miserable marriage would actually last forever.  I also couldn’t imagine how it would end.  That is, until it did… It was May 24, 2006.  I spent the evening with old friends.  My husband worked late and then had dinner at a coworker’s house (or so he said). [...]

Understanding the Pain and Rejection of Infidelity

Submitted by: Erica Manfred Women who have been left for another woman describe the experience in extreme terms:  Stella, sixty-two, whose husband left her for someone else after thirty-three years of marriage was typical:  “ I cried every day for two months.  I still cry two years later.  And railed and screamed in the car [...]

Eight Signs He Is Cheating

Adultery is a tricky situation, it is hard to be sure if a husband is cheating but it pays to protect yourself. We live in the age of technology, cell phones; the internet…temptation is everywhere, lovers are easily accessible and we can all be tempted…husbands and wives. If you suspect he is being unfaithful be [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Should I tell my kids what he’s REALLY like?

Question: Dear Shelley, A few years ago I found out my husband was talking to women online, meeting up with them in hotel rooms at night, and getting drunk. I have been a very good mom and wife and have tried to live a Christian life in spite of him lying to our children and his secretive plans to [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Where is HIS Bad Karma?

Question: Dear Shelley, I broke up with a man five months ago whom I was with for six years. Two months after we broke up he was engaged to another woman and didn’t even bother telling me. It became apparent to me that he was with this woman when we were together but I didn’t [...]

Is Infidelity a Form of Domestic Abuse?

In many instances, betrayal through infidelity can be very close to what we term domestic violence. Unfaithful husbands, especially if your husband has passive aggressive tendencies, are often insensitive to the pain they inflict, just as are perpetrators of physical and psychological violence. Often a wife is as vulnerable and dependent as the victim of [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: I’d do ANYTHING to bring him back…

Question: Hi Shelley, About 2 1/2 years ago my husband of 16 years told me he didn’t love me anymore.  I immediately started vomiting and became hysterical. I was a stay-at-home mom to three kids, had worshiped the ground he walked on, and thought he was my best friend. I later found out that he [...]

Jar of Hearts

Submitted by Delaine Three weeks ago,unknown and unsigned singer Christina Perri was working as a waitress in a Philadelphia cafe.  But by chance – or perhaps grand design  - a song she wrote called Jar of Hearts,  landed in the hands of  Stacey Tookey, a choreographer for So You Think You Can Dance.  Virtually overnight, Christina’s life has become a [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Husband has left to go ‘find himself’

Dear Shelley: My husband moved out to “find himself” and decide if he wants to work on our marriage of 22 years or if he wants to be single. He had an affair and I lived with this knowledge and his sadness after the other woman dumped him for fear that her husband would find out.  Nonethethless I was still [...]

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