Is There a Relationship Between Infidelity and Domestic Abuse?

Submitted by: Cathy
When my friend Kate finally collected enough courage to end her 12-year marriage to Will, she was suffering all the symptoms of a victim of domestic abuse. She had panic attacks, was in a state of depression, her self-esteem was in the gutter, and her sense of reality was distorted.
In the beginning, Kate [...]

Ever Wonder Why Some Men Cheat?

Submitted by: Cathy
If you’ve ever been the victim of infidelity the one thing you’ve wondered is “why” did he cheat? You will ask yourself that question dozens of times and may even think learning why the affair happened will keep it from happening again or relieve the pain you feel.
The truth is, knowing “why” won’t [...]

Pathways Carved By Sorrow

Submitted by Delaine
I say without shame that over the past two years since divorcing, I’ve felt lows unlike anything I’ve ever felt before.  It wasn’t just because of experiencing infidelity, though that full-body shock and heartbreak was excruciating.  There were also many other kinds of ‘lows’: feelings of emptiness….restlessness… loneliness.  And of course the big one: FEAR.
Time and time and time again, I [...]

Serving It Up Cold To That Lying, Cheating Bastard

Submitted by Delaine
When you found out your spouse was cheating, were you obsessed with thoughts of revenge?  Throwing all his clothes in a heap on the lawn…slashing his tires…or forwarding copies of his cyber sex sessions to his entire address book?   Maybe your fantasies were more devious – perhaps they involved some Superglue and the bathroom throne.  [...]

Tiger Woods “R” Us

Submitted by: Erica Manfred
I’ve been wondering why the Tiger Woods thing is such a big deal in the media. Why do people care about Tiger’s infidelities? After all, it seems to me that infidelity is treated as no big deal in this country. Men cheat every day, get caught, get divorced, leave their kids, drag [...]

Lipstick on his Collar, Hatred in his Heart

Submitted by: Erica Manfred
Have you been wondering why the man who cheated on you is also so furious with you?  Where does he get off blaming you when he was the one who cheated?   When my ex told me he was leaving I kept asking him why he was so angry with me, what did [...]

Understanding the Pain and Rejection of Infidelity

Submitted by: Erica Manfred
Women who have been left for another woman describe the experience in extreme terms:  Stella, sixty-two, whose husband left her for someone else after thirty-three years of marriage was typical:  “ I cried every day for two months.  I still cry two years later.  And railed and screamed in the car and [...]

Can Infidelity Save The Modern Marriage?

Submitted by Delaine
Can cheating on your spouse end up saving your marriage? According to Noel Biderman in his new book, Cheaters Proper, How Infidelity Will Save The Modern Marriage, the answer, believe it or not, is yes.
Who is this Noel Biderman?  This native Torontonian is the CEO and founder of  The Ashley Madison Agency, an online dating service that helps married men [...]

To Tell Or Not To Tell—About His Affairs

Submitted by: Erica
I spoke at a divorce support group last night and heard some interesting stories about adult children of divorce.   One woman’s ex told her 19-year-old son that he was about to divorce her before he told her.  Actually he asked his son whether he thought it was a good idea.  I thought I’d [...]

Cheating Scum in the Public Swimming Pool

Submitted by: Delaine
I was at a public swimming pool with my three kids, playing in the toddler section.  A great big bucket of water above us was almost full and teetering to tip.  My kids squealed and we all huddled in, arms entwined, heads down…till finally, the much-anticipated water crashed over our heads and backs.
Laughing, I scooted [...]