Divorce Recovery: Beware Expectations

Submitted by Divorce Coach Shelley Stile
In a nutshell, expectations are premeditated resentments and disappointments. They are self-sabotaging beliefs we hold that literally set us up to feel bad and keep us stuck in the pain of our divorce. They are in direct conflict with how the world actually works and are based on the phrase, [...]

With Time and Distance Comes a Calm Heart

Submitted by: Maya
I caught a glimpse of the ex the other day. We had to be in the same place and cordially stayed on opposite sides of the room. He always keeps his back to me when we are in these situations but I always sit facing him, daring him to look into [...]

You Can’t Rush Your Learning – Even When You’re Convinced You’re Ready

Submitted by Delaine
Over the past year, most of my divorcing friends have found new partners and seemingly established lovely new lives.  And I’ve  wondered:  Why is it taking longer for me? I mean, I crawled and slashed my way out of Rock Bottom, diligently performed my internal housekeeping, and grew and stretched spiritually in so many positive ways.  So why, in [...]

FLASHING Dating Reminder: You are NOT your story

Submitted by Delaine
A divorced girlfriend of mine was going out on a date – a third date, which rarely happened with her.  And as we talked over the phone beforehand, she was almost panicked.

“I actually like this man, Delaine.  But the timing couldn’t be worse – my life is such a mess, and I don’t want [...]