Forgiving Yourself: Letting Go of Negative Self-Talk

Submitted by: Erica Manfred If you’re overwhelmed with self-blame here’s a great quote from Bonnie Russell, the founder of www.FamilyLawCourts.com. She says: I’ve found women, especially therapists and other helping professionals, have trouble forgiving themselves.  They constantly berate themselves with:   “I should have seen it, known it, realized it,”  followed by “I wasted (fill in [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Move on? Let Go? Pfft. Yeah, right.

Question: Dear Shelley, “Moving on” and “letting go”.  These are the two phrases I HATE the most. My ex revealed his affair in July of ’09. I filed for divorce in August and he moved in with his girlfriend. We were married nine years and have two kids. His girlfriend just gave birth to their [...]

What Happy Divorcees Know

Submitted by Deborah Moskovitch  Why is it that some people can move on happy, while others walk around bitter and angry many years postdivorce? It’s not necessarily the decisions you make, but how you learn to live with them There is one thing for certain and that is, there is no looking back. All I [...]

If there was ever a time I’d use a psychic, divorce was it!

Submitted by Delaine At any point since your marriage ended, have you been inspired to see a tarot card reader or psychic? Cause I have.  A few times, in fact.  I’ve also looked for ‘angel footprints’ and messages from Above – it’s all about needing a bit of faith, isn’t it?  In ourselves, our futures AND the universe we live [...]

Serving It Up Cold To That Lying, Cheating Bastard

Submitted by Delaine When you found out your spouse was cheating, were you obsessed with thoughts of revenge?  Throwing all his clothes in a heap on the lawn…slashing his tires…or forwarding copies of his cyber sex sessions to his entire address book?   Maybe your fantasies were more devious – perhaps they involved some Superglue and the bathroom [...]

My Regret About Marrying The Wrong Man

Submitted by Erica Manfred It took me more than twenty years to figure out why I never left my husband and I’m still struggling with  regret about marrying him in the first place.    After he dumped me,  I wished many times I’d been widowed instead of left for a younger woman.   When your husband dies, [...]