Your First Post Divorce Sleepover with Him: Eight Tips to Success

Submitted by: Cathy Meyer If you are like me you aren’t into one night stands. Waking up in the morning next to your new lover won’t happen after a night out and too many drinks. You will know his first and last name, more than likely his mother’s name and many details that have led [...]

LUST: Damned if You Give Into it, Damned if You Don’t

Submitted by Delaine As my divorced girlfriend Amy told me about a recent first date she went on, she was practically squealing.  For not only was her date smart, funny and gentlemanly, she was very sexually attracted to him.  “I kept having to tell myself to stop staring at his lips,” she laughed.  “My mind kept flashing with scenes of us getting [...]

Friends With Benefits: A Myth, A Rarity, Or Matter of Luck?

Submitted by Delaine Over  two years ago, when my best friend Hali and I found ourselves newly separated and back out in the dating trenches, we kept hearing the term “Friends With Benefits.”   We both liked the sound of it and decided it was something we wanted.  After all, we weren’t ready for serious, but we wanted to have sex.  Thus [...]

“Honey…this is sex not love.”

Submitted by Delaine We enjoyed each other for hours.  And it was as wonderful as the other four times we’d been together.  Passionate.  Intense. Deep.  Freeing.  But as I lay snuggled against him in the aftermath,  eyes closed, brain off in Post-Orgasmic Wonderland,  I suddenly heard:   “I love you, Delaine.” My eyes flew open.  Did I imagine that?  Oh God, on [...]

First Time Encounter: The Weakening, Sensual Touch of a Man

Submitted by Delaine She said that within seconds of meeting him, she knew she was attracted to him.   And over the next two hours as they sat laughing and talking on their first date, their chemistry was so intense, it was palpable…. But somehow…somehow, she sensed there was something different about this man.  There was just ‘something’ in his energy…the way he looked at [...]

Is It Time To Free YOUR Cougar?

Submitted by Delaine Back when I first got separated and started online dating, I was insulted if any younger man called me a COUGAR.  In my mind, ‘cougar’ meant older woman in leopard-skin leotards, teased hair and fake nails that wouldn’t quit.  I might be in my late thirties, but excuse me, I wasn’t desperate, skanky, OR a tacky [...]

Dating After Divorce: An Indecent, Freaky Or Attractive Proposition?

Submitted by Delaine So a woman I know received a proposition this week from a man online.  We’re still trying to figure out if we think it’s indecent.  Is it different?  Yes.  Freaky?  Borderline.  Is she considering it?  Hmmmm…kind of. First I should mention, she’s met him in person already.  He apparently seemed totally normal.  He [...]

Loving…without attachment

Submitted by Delaine Moore Laughing. Making love. Holding. Pillow talking…   No, I’m not sitting here dreaming of falling in love again.   I’m imagining what it would be like to experience a weekend of ‘love without attachment.’  And I wonder:  Might they be a wonderful prescription for our restless/ hurting hearts after divorce?  Remember when you were in that really bad emotional [...]