Ask The Divorce Coach: Bouts of Anger Still Remain

Question: Dear Shelley, I have been divorced for one year and I am getting better –  I work, meditate, exercise, and am friends with my ex-husband.  But sometimes I feel very angry at him.  For example: I couldn’t afford to keep our family home, and when I went looking for a new apartment or house [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Separated But Living Together

Question Dear Shelley: Overview: husband cheated, tried to make it work, husband stopped his counselling, blamed me for not having sex cause I could not get over the “other woman”, cheated again, now separated, living in the same house but separate rooms, one 14 -year- old daughter, husband is out every night getting his “happiness [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: To Divorce…Or Not Divorce

Question: Dear Shelley, I have been with my spouse for 10 rocky years.  It is the second marriage for both.  Our marriage has been plagued and blessed with various events – blended family, a child of our own, depression, health issues, death of parents.  My spouse suffers from depression and EDD, and I think he [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: The Boyfriend & The Ex

Question: Dear Shelley: I’ve been separated since May 2008 and my divorce should be final soon.  I began dating last year and earlier this year met and fell in love with a wonderful man. We’ve been constant companions ever since.  My soon-to-be-ex has issues with my boyfriend (they have never actually met) and has been [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Husband has left to go ‘find himself’

Dear Shelley: My husband moved out to “find himself” and decide if he wants to work on our marriage of 22 years or if he wants to be single. He had an affair and I lived with this knowledge and his sadness after the other woman dumped him for fear that her husband would find out.  Nonethethless I was still [...]

Ask the Divorce Coach: Parenting Plan Alienating Mother and Son

Submitted by: Shelly Stile Ask The Divorce Coach Question: Dear Shelley, I have an 11 year old son from my first marriage. I remarried 4 years ago and have a 2 year old and a 6 month old.  Due to a job change my husband and I had to move 1 &1/2 hours drive away [...]

How to Handle your Emotions during Divorce

Submitted by Divorce Coach Shelley Stile Divorce brings out the lunatic within us. Rage, anger, depression, sadness, resentment and blame are just some of negative emotions running the show. Your emotional state is hard to pin down from one moment to the next. This is not the best state of mind to be in when [...]

The Reward For “Letting Go” Is Freedom

Submitted by Divorce Coach Shelley Stile The ability to move on after your divorce entails the letting go of the past with its emotional baggage and negative emotions. If you can accomplish this feat then the heavy burdens you have been carrying will lift and you will experience the liberation of freedom: the ability to [...]

Recovering from Divorce: Honoring the Truth

Submitted by Divorce Coach Shelley Stile Do you remember the old adage that states there’s your side, there’s my side and then there’s the truth? If we were totally honest with ourselves, we too could see the truth of any situation. Once we accept that truth, we have the new found freedom to gain clarity, [...]

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