Ask The Divorce Coach: If Only I Could Change Him…

Submitted by: Shelley Stile Question: Dear Shelley, I know I should move on – the list of “cons” to being married to him is so LOOOONG.   But I am attached/co-dependent on him and I constantly think about what we COULD have (if he was different) and I keep hoping and beleiving that MAYBE if he would [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: My Ex Is Constantly Texting Me!

Question: Dear Shelley: I’m newly divorced, three and a half months.  He has custody of our three young sons, ages 5, 4 and 3. I am working my way through this divorce, healing from past abuse issues that have come up, trying to maintain my sobriety as well as establish boundaries around our co-parenting. He [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: “I Didn’t See It Coming”

Question: Dear Shelley: After 24 years of marriage, my husband moved out last week, told me he wants to be free and NEVER loved me.  My friends are ignoring me and my children are on his side.  I work full time and have not told anyone at my job yet.  I am not sleeping well [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Conflicting Feelings

Question: Dear Shelley, I have been separated since May and find myself on a roller coaster of emotions every day. I have far too much contact with my ex (my choice) and it pains me to see him happy. I was blindsided with the separation and love him dearly. I know I am being destructive [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: “I Allowed His Verbal Abuse”

Question: Dear Shelley: I got divorced on September 11, 2009.   I allowed this man to verbally abuse me throughout our marriage.  Moreover, he didn’t even talk to my daughter and grandchildren for 10 years.  I couldn’t wash his clothes good enough, wash dishes good enough, nor cook right.  I found out too late he treated [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Staying Married Only Because of Money

Question: Dear Shelley, I am in a nine-year marriage marriage and there is no love left between us.  All we do is argue, we can’t communicate, there is no intimacy whatsoever, and I am currently unemployed. I don’t know how I can support myself if I divorce him.  There are no jobs in my city. It [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Trying To Parent With A Broken Heart

Question: Dear Shelley: I want to know what steps I should take to get over my anger and hurt so I can be a normal mom again to my two kids. I was married for nine years and found out shortly after our eighth wedding anniversary that he was cheating.  My anger lies in the [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: Broke & Powerless From Legal Fees

Question: Dear Shelley: I am really struggling.  I was married for almost ten years and have two children.   My husband and I have been to court three times already.  At the last hearing, the judge asked both attorneys if all issues were resolved and both said yes – but my ex and his attorney have [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach – Still Stuck Six Years Later

Question: Dear Shelley, I was married for 25 years, have been separated for six years, and now divorced for three years. I recently found out that my ex has a girlfriend, goes to her place at night, of course is having sex with her, and it is making me crazy. I cry all the time and am depressed. [...]

Ask The Divorce Coach: I’d do ANYTHING to bring him back…

Question: Hi Shelley, About 2 1/2 years ago my husband of 16 years told me he didn’t love me anymore.  I immediately started vomiting and became hysterical. I was a stay-at-home mom to three kids, had worshiped the ground he walked on, and thought he was my best friend. I later found out that he [...]

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