Divorced Women Online

Mom, you may be divorced…but you’re still my role model

Submitted by Delaine At 66 years old, my mom is a real firecracker. This woman has so much energy, she makes 20 year olds look like slugs. But much more than that, mom is confident. She's generous beyond belief. She's sexy. Has taken great care of herself. And she spends her days either working 10 hour shifts in the hospital or taking care of somebody, some animal or some thing. Why am I telling you this? Because my mom is also divorced. Ten years ago, after 35 years of marriage, my dad left her for another woman. And not only am I so proud of how she has ...

Do You See His ‘Potential’ or Who He REALLY Is?

Submitted by Delaine It's been three and a half years since my ex-husband and I split up. And since then, despite the many dates and mini-relationships I've had, I'm still single. But I don't think of this as being a 'bad' thing ; I think I've needed this time - to heal, to grow, to like myself more...and to get a much stronger sense of what a healthy relationship looks/feels like. That being said, I want to bring up a conversation I shared with a divorced girlfriend the other day; it was a bit of an 'aha' for me and I'm filing it away for reference for when I meet ...

Ask The Divorce Coach: Trying To Parent With A Broken Heart

Question: Dear Shelley: I want to know what steps I should take to get over my anger and hurt so I can be a normal mom again to my two kids. I was married for nine years and found out shortly after our eighth wedding anniversary that he was cheating. My anger lies in the fact that for nine years he told me he would never hurt my family like his dad did to him and his mother, but that was indeed what he did. In the last year, he has become engaged, moved into a new home with this woman, and, although ...

How to Look Good Naked

Submitted by: The Wild Mind How to look good naked It seems looking good naked is on everyone’s mind after these days. There is an excellent post over at Big Little Wolf’s Daily Plate of Crazy about physical appearance vs. feeling good. She brings up a number of great talking points on the topic of body image issues, being a slave to the scale and our self-esteem and how it connects to our physical appearance. We often say that our self concept shouldn’t be based on whether we look good naked but, for so many of us, it is. I maintain that for many ...

House Hunting for the Blended Family

Submitted by Shirley Cress Dudley Budget Discuss with your future spouse the ideal budget for a new home. Make sure you choose a range that you can afford. Try to keep your house payments to 25% of your income (33% at the very most.) You may have two houses that need selling. Make sure at least one of your houses is sold before you purchase a new home for your blended family. Agree on the area of town Are you trying to stay in a certain school district? Will the new house be relatively (but not too close) to your ex-spouse’s house? This makes dropping ...

Editor’s Picks

How to Leave an Abusive Husband

Planning your escape from an abusive husband. Every first step begins with a plan. If you’ve spent time in an abusive relationship getting out means planning for your escape; where you will live, your financial future. While putting your plan together follow the rules below. Keep yourself safe until you can get out of the relationship for good. Make... [Read more of this review]

Physical Abuse Checklist: Are You in a Physically Abusive Relationship?

What is physical abuse? Physical abuse leaves behind bruises and broken bones, while emotional abuse kills the self esteem of the victim. Physical abuse is a situation where the husband beats the wife for little or no reason. Are you subjected to any of the below signs of physical abuse? Pushes, grabs or shoves you Slaps you Punches you Kicks you Chokes... [Read more of this review]

Emotional Abuse Checklist: Are You Being Emotionally Abused?

What is emotional abuse? There is no universally accepted definition of emotional abuse. Like other forms of violence in relationships, emotional abuse is based on power and control. The following are widely recognized as forms of emotional abuse: Your spouse… Frequently blames or criticizes you Calls you names Ridicules your beliefs, religion, race... [Read more of this review]

Grandparent’s Golden Rules for Blended and Step Families

Submitted by Shirley Cress Dudley You and your new love have decided to blend your families. Now it’s time to help your Mom and Dad with some tips on how to respond to your newly blended family. 1- Treat all children the equally and fairly Treat your step grandkids as if they were all your biological grandchildren. They are waiting and watching... [Read more of this review]

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Dating and Sex

Do You See His ‘Potential’ or Who He REALLY Is?

Submitted by Delaine It’s been three and a half years since my ex-husband and...

Dating Mishap: Rather ironic…Don’t you think?

Submitted by Amelia So I spent the wee hours of last Monday night having a ‘private...

Sex vs Lovemaking – Why Are we so Confused?

Submitted by: Big Little Wolf Did you get lucky this week? Or should I say, did you...

Liars & Players & Snakes, Oh My!

Submitted by Amelia Venturing into the online dating world can feel as scary as trekking...

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Coping

Ask The Divorce Coach: Trying To Parent With A Broken Heart

Question: Dear Shelley: I want to know what steps I should take to get over my anger...

Ask The Divorce Coach: Broke & Powerless From Legal Fees

Question: Dear Shelley: I am really struggling. I was married for almost ten years...

How to Leave an Abusive Husband

Planning your escape from an abusive husband. Every first step begins with a plan....

Physical Abuse Checklist: Are You in a Physically Abusive Relationship?

What is physical abuse? Physical abuse leaves behind bruises and broken bones, while...

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Midlife Divorce

Mom, you may be divorced…but you’re still my role model

If there was ever a time I’d use a psychic, divorce was it!

Submitted by Amelia At any point since your marriage ended, have you been inspired to see a tarot card reader or psychic? Cause I have. A few times, in fact. I’ve also looked for ‘angel footprints’ and messages from Above – it’s all about needing a bit of faith, isn’t it? In ourselves, our futures AND the universe we live in? The... [Read more of this review]

How to Leave an Abusive Husband

New York Goes No-Fault: What Does This Mean For Women?

Submitted by: Madeline Grace Are no-fault divorce laws in the best financial interest of women? Not according to the study below. In the late 1980s, several states set up task forces to study gender bias in the courts. For example, in Colorado, one section of the task force was charged with the area of divorce. It studied cases taken directly from the... [Read more of this review]

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